Endless bench presses won’t shrink your chest. To ensure you fill your shirt in the right way, you need to focus on exercises that work as many muscles as possible. “The more muscles you move, the harder your body works,” says Leo Savage, a personal trainer at luxury London gym Third Space who recommends compound moves that recruit the body’s biggest muscles, like deadlifts, squats, and pull-ups.
This one is pretty self explanatory so simply put, it just means don’t over do it. If you blow up your man’s phone with pointless messages, then he isn’t going to look forward to hearing from you. However, if you only send him well thought out, cleverly crafted messages, well those are the ones that are going to keep him hanging off your every word…. Or text rather. ;)
Find out what other people think of him. Ask around about what this guy is like. If his friends seem honestly happy about the idea of him being in a relationship, that is a good sign. Ask mutual friends about what they think about him and try to get to know his friends or coworkers as well. However, judging a guy entirely on what other's think is not the best way to go. People may have a bad idea of him for the wrong reasons; it's best to get to know him yourself too.

This works especially well when you’re feeling a bit like nobody will want to go out with you ever. Get on the train and look every single man in the eye. Let them adapt from looking at you like you’re a body, and watch the transition when they realise you’re a woman, a person. You’ll see them warm to you in all sorts of different ways. Some men might smile back in a fatherly way, while some might send a cheeky wink your way. Some might look touched, or vulnerable. And a few will look at you with genuine attraction and intrigue. So, what does this do? It makes you feel interesting and attractive and undaunted by new interactions. It makes you feel fearless. And it’s a useful way of learning how to read expressions and see if someone fancies you or not. Stick with it, you’re well on your way to mastering how to get a boyfriend!

True, I have no blog and am a consumer of PF blogs only, a point not lost on me and that I freely give to Sam (backup a couple posts and read my comments), however, I call bullshit when I see it Janey. Though I disagree with Sam on occasion, I make an effort to give him a hat tip as well for the massive effort he puts into his posts-this isn’t lost on me.
The way to a anyone's heart is through their stomach. It's such a cliché, but also true. "This is a sure-fire way to make anyone feel loved," says Spurr. "It's about being taken care of, partly, but it's also because being hungry for food is such a basic primal thing. If someone brings you a freshly prepared platter of delights is it any wonder we love them more?" According to an informal poll over at Men's Health, a steak sandwich or baguette with fried onion or mushroom toppings would be most appreciated... along with an ice cold beer, of course.

Your contribution to this article shows intelligence and apparent success. To be a self made millionaire, intelligence (and lots of luck) are of the paramount importance. I happened to have been married to a millionaire 10 years ago. At the time we met, I had no idea. We were both involved politically and just happened to have met over coffee in a hallway during break time. I found him interesting, intelligent, witty, and naturally self assured. He kept trying to date me, but I thought he was too old for me when he mentioned he had grandchildren! Finally I went to a sports event with him and discovered he was very fun to be with. We ended up traveling the world, enjoying his horses winning many races, and basically walking through life together. I wasn’t looking to meet a rich man, so easily and agreeably signed a pre nup he presented. Towards the end of his life, (he died from prostate cancer) his family started causing trouble and he sided with them. Therefore turbulence and controversy followed. However, we still got together and in spite of his family’s objections, took trips to New York, cruises, etc. We loved each other to the end. His money was never a major force with me; it only allowed us to walk in, and play in, any world “playground” we chose. He was a man of strength who taught me how to hobnob with the rich and famous, as well with the poor and lowly. I would do it all over again.
3. Email him links about his favorite TV show, which is the second season of “True Detective.” He loves that shows because it’s gritty and it’s what adults watch and he’s a fucking-a adult. Don’t just send him some random thinkpiece from a lame website like Vulture or Salon or The New York Times. Send him good links to smart blog posts that he can read on his chill Galaxy Note. If you loved him, you could go on a date with someone who works at HBO and ask him if Vince Vaughn really is that talented. That’s a really good question.
Help him feel special. One way to charm a guy is by treating him in a manner that makes him feel like he's special to you. When you're talking to him in a group of his pals, pay special attention to him. Make steady eye contact and ask him specific questions. Go out of your way to speak to him when you can and show a strong interest in his life, from his hobbies and his career to his family and friendships.

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I see a partnership as 2 people making a go of some common goal. My father used the utensil analogy of couples who are a fork and knife, versus couples who are a pair of chopsticks. The differing expectations for yourself and for your SO means you need a fork/knife relationship. The job gets done, and each person has their role which is fixed by gender norms, or however you two decide.

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Don't believe me? In a famous University of Chicago study, researchers showed two sets of pictures of a woman's face to a group of men. The photographs were identical, except for one thing: The pupils in one were doctored to make them look larger. When shown the doctored photograph, men judged the same woman twice as attractive. (There were similar results when sets of photos of a man's face was shown to women.)

What To Text Someone You Like


@Meghan, I have a similar mindset as you. I’d rather avoid the drama that comes with dating and just build something myself. Every date is time away from the goals that I have and I much rather be spending time on things that matter to me rather than trying to “convince” someone to continue to date me. If it doesn’t work out, then perhaps it is meant to be that I don’t have it. I can always find something new to work on if a door is really truly closed. There are plenty of new opportunities that come out each and every year-so it’s just a matter of finding the right one.

I don’t believe any relationship should be prohibiting in anyway for any of the participants, the point is a guy shouldn’t have to text you as a chore..I.e. If he would prefer to be doing something else then he shouldn’t be prohibited from doing that. If he stops texting then he is either playing it cool or would simply rather being doing something else. If a man used to text all the time and showed love and affection then suddenly stops it is probably one of those two reasons. I think my boyfriend of two years has started preferring to do something else, that is fine. It is your mission to find out why your boyfriend has stopped texting. Once you know you can make an informed decision on whether or not you want to carry on with them. Perhaps you like the chase or perhaps you don’t like to feel second best, you decide.


Chopstick couples do what each needs to do in a coordinated effort to get the job done, no fixed responsibilities that are the sole job of one person or the other. Sometimes it works out to leverage the strengths of one person over the other, like my husband will go get a needle and thread to fix my pants while baking bread and watching football… and I’ll be reading a PF article and picking ETFs, sitting next to him while doing the laundry. Things get done to both our benefit.
Obviously the most important thing you need to remember is to start off strong. If you start off on the wrong foot, the rest of the conversation is likely to follow, which leaves you with a boring, uninteresting, and totally terrible text message convo. Start off strong by coming up with something new and unique. For instance, instead of the same old “Hey, what’s up?” try saying something like, “Hey! How did you do on that math test?” or “Hey are you watching this crazy baseball game?” Anything that will strike up a conversation.

2. Be a hot mama, not a prospective mama. "Men have a radar for detecting women who are baby hungry," warns Christie Kelleher, director of the New York office of Kelleher & Associates, an upscale matchmaking service for successful professionals. Kelleher, whose service has brought together about 6,000 marriages in 19 years, adds, "He's thinking, 'Whoa—I don't even know your middle name, and I already know the colors you want to paint your kid's nursery.'" Your best bet: no baby talk!
It’s Friday night. You’re home alone in your pajamas, cuddling your Tom Hiddleston body pillow on the couch and nursing a full pint of Chunky Monkey ice cream (okay, by now it’s only half a pint-but we’re not judging). How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days is playing on TV. Dazzling Kate Hudson has just decided to write about ditching a boyfriend in ten days and you think to yourself, “I can’t even find a boyfriend, let alone lose him.”
Amy North, BA, BSc, is a woman’s best friend. If you’re searching for the man of your dreams, or you want make your boyfriend stay devoted to you, then Amy North is your gal! Amy's incredibly popular YouTube channel, which boasts over 340,000 subscribers and 20+ million views, helps women learn how to get what they want out of their relationships. Her best-selling program, The Devotion System, reveals a number of psychological ‘hot buttons’ that make any man 'tick', and teaches readers how to use simple techniques and phrases to make any man love you.
So there’s this guy that I have been texting and hanging out with for almost a year. He used to text me almost right away or at least in the same day if I text early enough. Lately I have to initiate the conversation and I tell him that I don’t like doing that but all he’s done is apoligize and says that he will try to text often but he’s busy with school and work, which I understand since I’m busy too. I’ll text him and if he doesn’t respond within 2 days I won’t text him at all and usually it’s like 2-3 weeks before he starts feeling bad about not texting. Usually at 1 1/2 weeks I’ll text just to make sure he’s okay and still alive and he’ll respond to that but won’t say anything else. I’m starting to get super fed up. I’m wondering how I just completely sever ties with him at this point.
So there you have it, 5 secrets for texting a guy you like. And to serve you in your love life, if you want to go deeper in this, we have written a texting guide for you. It is a fantastic e-book and it’s free! It’s a gift from me to you, I’ve posted a link right here in the description. You can go and click that link. Get that free texting guide. It will really serve you in your love life.

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So first of all, dating is a game. You have to play a few games in order to survive the dating world. This means you can’t always do what your emotions are telling you to do. If you’re really into a guy and you feel the need to text him  every hour – it’s probably best to hold off otherwise you might come across as clingy. Whenever you don’t act like yourself or in the way that you want to, that is technically “playing a game”.

Me and this guy have been friends since middle school.. we're 18 now. We were inseparable. Then I moved to another city and then I realized I really loved him. The only one I ever miss is him. In school we helped each other get over breakups school tests friendship issues everything. When I told him he said he loved me only as a friend or "sister".
If you regard taxes as embezzlement then you do not deserve to live in the freest and most democratic country in the world. If you resent taxation per se then you perhaps should live alone in a forest like an animal and forsake all of the advantages of living in a civilized society. Do you also resent giving to charity? Taxation is excessive indeed in SOME states and cities (including where I live) and we do need greater fairness in the tax code but I resent people who think taxation is theft.
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So now this is starting to sound like the wrong story for this site right? Wrong. Him and I continued on. Following the secrets of the book “his needs, her needs” My husband trusted me, when we finally claimed bankruptcy, he was free from his ruin and we began again on $4000.00 TOGETHER! We committed to live debt free ( this is key!!) Moved in with my mom! I barely worked at all through out this whole process. I was sick with a undiagnosed illness that lasted years. he was tested at the unemployment office. They showed him his tests and it showed he could choose ANY career he wanted. He score in the 200th percentile on all categories! He picked computers. They accepted his choice and told him they would pay for his training, but before he started training, he got a job In Information technology. Like the days of when I met him originally, he moved up quickly like an ambulance blaring and and clearing the way for anyone behind him. the difference this time? he made enough to buy groceries and pay bills and save a bit.

It is obviously the kind of film that couldn't be made today, and that alone in my book makes it worth a look. Unfortunately, the version I saw looked awful suffering from both bad original film elements and tracking problems from one of the few remaining videotapes that is still circulating around. I'd like to see this film resurrected on DVD. Fat chance though probably since many of Girdler's early films (like the vastly inferior, but much less controversial "Three on a Meathook")have yet to see the light of a DVD player. Still they released the even more racially-insensitive "Fight for Your Live" (although that film had the advantage of actually having been banned in Britain)so maybe there is hope.


How? Social hierarchies are based on people's deep awareness of status cues, right? (Any half-awake homo sapienette in America can size up your clothes, hairdo, accent, etc., and in two seconds peg you correctly in the social pecking order.) The sexual Status Sphere works the same way. If you're positioned ever so "nice, sweet," and un-slutilicious, clasping (demure as a doily!) a plastic cup of Jack and Ginger in a specific environment at a specific time (i.e., your usual "weekend party"), the Bud boys will read your cues 100 percent correctly as the cute "frustrated" girl who's looking for, no, who deserves a nice guy, and they will take massive advantage of the situation.
After her death, I had many divorcees looking to ‘help me out’. I did need help as I have 3 younger kids. One woman who was a friend of my wife and is very attractive was over all the time. Well, we did end up dating. It ended after a few months. She was 49, very attractive, twice divorced, and broke. I mean broke like couldn’t pay her rent broke. I discovered from other women who know her that her showing up at my door after my wife’s death was not an accident. She began borrowing money from me. Larger and larger amounts. She talked marriage (say what? My wife, your friend, just died six months ago) She said she wanted a $10K diamond ring if we got engaged. She wanted to buy a very large, expensive house together. She liked borrowing my Audi.
Men will never need to worry about this in the same way women will, even if you say you will happily be a stay-at-home dad. Well, fine, but what if the woman wants to be a stay-at-home mum? Then guess what? The MAN needs to go out and earn the money… for women, it’s easier to find a man with money first, then to get a poor man and somehow make him make money.
If he doesn’t, wait at least a day before you send another. A good rule of thumb is to keep it to one text per response per day. If your conversation has seemed to completely die off, and you’re worried the guy you were set up with has lost interest (or forgot about your upcoming date), Nerdlove mentions that it’s okay to reach out cautiously. A text like “looking forward to seeing you tomorrow” isn’t a bad idea. It helps confirm that your date is still on and it shows your interest in a way that doesn’t come across as being overeager or pushy.
These questions to ask a guy or girl over text are great because chatting with someone over text is a lot different from talking with them in person. So a lot of conversation questions just don’t quite work in a medium that begs for short responses. No long detailed stories. Nothing too deep or heavy. And forget anything too emotionally loaded unless you are an emoji master.
The first text is always the hardest. How long do you wait to message that cute guy from the gym? If you ask around, some people will tell you to wait for “this many days” before you make contact, but that strategy is flat-out silly. Dating columnist Dr. Nerdlove told us that you should always touch base sooner rather than later. If you don’t text them relatively soon (or sit around hoping for them to text you first), a couple things can happen: that cute guy at the gym will either forget about you and that he gave you his number at all, or he’ll assume you’re not actually interested. Nerdlove recommends you text them in the same day or night to keep the emotional momentum going and to solidify yourself in their memory. You’ll become “that cute girl from the gym” instead of “some girl that I guess I talked to other day?”

I just came across this article while I am panicking waiting for a response from a man. Thanks, it’s a good read. I met him 2 weeks ago outside a club, and asked for his number, which he gave me. I text him the day after and he replied very fast, but then I noticed he was matching my response times. Our last communication was 3 days ago, I text him today and 4 hours later, still waiting for a reply! He said he would know about something we had discussed on Monday (yesterday) but he never got back to me. We haven’t arranged a proper first date yet, although he has mentioned “we should go out so some weekend”
While the world of romantic texting isn’t a large field of study (yet), there is some research that suggests you shouldn’t answer every text immediately upon receiving it. For Modern Romance, Ansari and Dr. Klinenberg found there was a general cultural consensus that you shouldn’t ever text back right away. According to their focus groups, texting back immediately can potentially make you seem overeager or desperate. It may seem a little strange to intentionally blow off a text, but it’s possible it will make you more desirable—at least in the short term. All that being said, Marin recommends you don’t overthink it too much:
I see a partnership as 2 people making a go of some common goal. My father used the utensil analogy of couples who are a fork and knife, versus couples who are a pair of chopsticks. The differing expectations for yourself and for your SO means you need a fork/knife relationship. The job gets done, and each person has their role which is fixed by gender norms, or however you two decide.

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It’s cuz he only wants sex from you, that’s y he responds to sexy pics and sexting almost immediately. I have figured this out from experience. I can be busy as hell but take 5 seconds to respond to say, I’ll get back with u asap or when I get home. If he doesn’t it’s cuz he’s BUSY getting other sexts and pics Believe it! This article is just an excuse for guys but in many ways true. It’s a guy telling us what most guys think and feel and it’s all in their crotch evidently right Eric?
Well said and agreed! It’s all about common courtesy and the respect you have for a person. Unless you have a career that requires you to be without your phone, there is no excuse that you can go 24 hours plus without responding back to someone’s text message. The advice given to females is to not act needy, yet then we are given advice that makes excuses for guys not responding…sure, sure it is possible that a guy was just busy when you texted him, but more times than most a man will make time to respond to you. That response can be “hey, I’ll text you later, kinda busy right now,” or a response to continue the conversation but the point is people don’t just put people off that they are interested in, in fear that the person will lose interest in them.

This guy does the same thng. In the beginning he would txt but now very rarely. I usually would send tons of txts. One day i sent a sexy pic and he responded “i like that” and that was all. Well yesterday no txts. But at 9pm he txt and ask if i was mad at him. I said no ofcourse not. He told me to txt him at 9am this morning. I did but no response. Havnt txt him back yet. I think some guys do just want u to chase them to see how good they have u wrapped around their finger. But i learn fast. He is probably getting worried now bcuz two days in a row i held my ground. When he txt later i wont respond. He just pkaying games. Men do that. But he gonna be chasing me bcuz im going to give him the cold shoulder even tho i miss him terribly. If a guy really likes u and he see u are changing he will get scared and fix his attitude

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