Now before you attack that idea as sexist, we're really just talking about two people who come together to love, care for and make each other's life even better by forming a cooperative partnership here. The real beauty of a relationship is when two people come together with a desire to give rather than just take. That's when the magic is unleashed.
I also wanted to mention that I think that in general, your article is good relationship advice period. Not just for women who want a rich guy, but for any woman who wants any guy. Most guys think the way you describe in your article! And most women do not think/act the way you describe in this article! So it’s good advice period. A good lesson to be learned form this article is that too many women approach men with the mindset “what can he do for me?” when women should try to think about what they bring to a relationship too.
You also need to up your cardio. Fat tissue encourages your body to convert testosterone to oestrogen. Burning blubber helps reconfigure your hormones, so food turns into muscle not ‘moobs’. But the most potent weapon in the war on chest-based embarrassment is heavy metal. Lifting weights ups testosterone levels, which helps rebalance your hormones.
Hi Eric! About man’s texting habits, when you’re in a relationship and the guy, being busy, responds to texts but doesn’t actually initiate contact for a couple of days or so, can it mean he doesn’t care that much about our relationship? I mean, from your perspective, don’t the guys feel the need to check in if we’re OK, or is that a sign that they don’t even think about us?
Whether you’re texting or not, you never want to appear needy. This is a HUGE turn off for 99% of the male population and is a sure fire way to get him running in the opposite direction. So how can you not appear needy? Don’t respond seconds after he texts you. Give it a few minutes. Don’t say things like, “Oh my gosh I’ve been waiting hours for your text message” or “Thank god you texted me I missed you”. Instead, try saying something flirty and fun like “Well hello there 😉 glad to see a text from you”.
You’ve heard that opposites attract? Well, forget about that. Many studies have revealed that people are likely to be attracted to individuals who resemble them. Whether due to social, cultural, developmental or some deeper psychological cause, your man will likely be more attracted to you if you remind him of himself. Cut your hair, start wearing similar clothes, if cosmetic surgery is an option then go for that.
Few calls a day when we not together and I never know when we meet….weekends he will be with me..sometimes even that I will not have….Talking about moving in together…but I’m thinking…do I really want to end up in huge house alone?? he is never home….I met him,I thought he working in zoo…I liked that idea…then I realized that little zoo…is not job.It’s his hobby…But was to late.I was in love.
Perhaps these "practical" dating strategies feel like extra help to some of us. We don't want to acknowledge that we need outside assistance to meet someone. I'm not sure what to think of practical methods. It could be really helpful, but I can't seem to shake that "extra math help" feeling. Besides, if my dating skills are like my math skills, no amount of extra help could get me afloat.
As for the very emotional and negative comments – maybe its because people don’t want to believe that its so easy to get a rich husband/boyfriend. That the core was ‘self-value’. That money isn’t a demon. That it offers choices and experiences and satisfaction from life. This article makes us question ourselves and then when we don’t like what we realise….then we lash out.

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Anyway, rant over. It’s just ironic sometimes, because there are those, probably you too, Sam, that would say I made the wrong choice. It seems like nowadays that would be the consensus. They would say so because they were never in a similar situation, never had been presented with a such a choice, and think the choice would be so logical, so easy.
@Emily-I understand that girls want to be with a guy that is financially secure. It is easier to maintain a good relationship when there is even one less stressor to worry about. However, I make girls earn their own money if they want something. If they want to buy a new car or a new pair of shoes, then she has to save her money to get it or build a new income stream to pay it off. If she refuses to do this, then I take it that she doesn’t want whatever it is bad enough. Additionally, any assets that I have and bank accounts are left in my name only. She doesn’t get access to anything that I have paid for myself and I make sure that she can’t use my money to fund something that is silly and frivolous.
***I CANT STRESS THIS NEXT POINT ENOUGH!) Please if they , meaning the other wives and girlfriends of his pals, (and they simply can’t wait to & I do mean want to see you go up in flames!),especially if your more attractive! Well honey, if you are caught speaking out of your lack of education on any subject, You failed. Not just him but the know when to speak & STFU Law! (Unwritten rules of being a lady) & now whatever comment you made will be a riot & NEVER FORGOTTEN!! Just trust me!
The explanations of male thinking is also not "boys will be boys" trash that insists sexist and misogynistic behaviors are simply "biological" for men & have to be tolerated by women. Instead of making excuses, the author manages to be honest & fair in describing common male mindsets & how & why certain negative attitudes/behaviors are triggered (much as stereotypical female negative behaviors can be triggered by crappy moves on a guys' part). Since a relationship is a dynamic, it's only fair to adjust what you can control - yourself. So you learn very subtle methods to hone your social & dating skill to basically COMMUNICATE in a way that men in general will grasp correctly.

I went on a trip with a guy. I know he’s busy from witnessing first hand the demand of his job. After the trip I texted him hi one day and he responded headed to dinner with a client I hope all is well. The next week I tested him with I know you’re stressed and pressured feel better. He responded the next day early in the morning with traveling sorry my text isn’t working great outside the us. I hope all is well.


Have a life. Desperate, dramatic, and clingy relationships are often rooted in a feeling of need and desperation for a man to fill your life. Even if you have low self-esteem, work over time to build it. Pursue your goals and be focused, explore your passions, have an interesting life, do things that take you outside your boundaries. Don't put up a tough exterior to get over shyness; gradually learn to build trust with a network of people, so that your boyfriend isn't the only person you open up to and share your life with. Also remember to trust yourself first. If you can't trust yourself, you are likely to not trust your man.
Lastly, my 7 fig earning boss told me he never got the appeal of a woman who could cook. Food comes from stores. Who cares? “I wanted a woman who could and would go out and earn 6 figures. Cuz that’s what I’m doing. And I don’t have time to cook.” – 30 yrs later still together, going strong, just bought their 3rd personal home in the carribean and 2nd investment resort property. Two beautiful sons who they love to death, and a life most would kill for.
It turns out that men and women want the same thing: a lasting, meaningful relationship. Matthew says that finding "the guy" isn't just about finding "a guy." It's about creating a life with someone who engages you at every level. In Get the Guy, Matthew shows you how to be proactive in your love life so that you can meet, talk to, and win over the guy who's right for you—without playing games.
There’s a difference between a random occurrence and a habit. If he misses a message or forgets to text back one time, it’s no big deal, but if he’s constantly leaving you waiting on a reply for days at a time, it’s pretty damn clear he’s not interested. He’s not answering (or at least not answering quickly enough) because you’re not on his mind. He texts you when it’s convenient for him, which is most likely when he’s horny or bored.
Lastly, my 7 fig earning boss told me he never got the appeal of a woman who could cook. Food comes from stores. Who cares? “I wanted a woman who could and would go out and earn 6 figures. Cuz that’s what I’m doing. And I don’t have time to cook.” – 30 yrs later still together, going strong, just bought their 3rd personal home in the carribean and 2nd investment resort property. Two beautiful sons who they love to death, and a life most would kill for.
Hi Eric, thank you for the wonderful advice! A few weeks ago I was driving myself crazy thinking I had done something wrong. I’m playing the waiting game right now and every time I feel like texting or calling, I read your articles again to drum it into my brain to stop! I’ll update when he comes around, but in the mean time, I’m keeping busy with my own stuff!
I also wanted to mention that I think that in general, your article is good relationship advice period. Not just for women who want a rich guy, but for any woman who wants any guy. Most guys think the way you describe in your article! And most women do not think/act the way you describe in this article! So it’s good advice period. A good lesson to be learned form this article is that too many women approach men with the mindset “what can he do for me?” when women should try to think about what they bring to a relationship too.

12. Look beyond his good looks. Don't be dazzled by a handsome face and buff bod. Is this guy worthy of winning your heart? "How good is he at relationships? How does he treat his mother? How does he get along with siblings, cousins and friends?" asks Brooks. If the answer to those questions is not too well, take heed. Once he is confident of your affections, he might revert to type and treat you like everyone else he "cares" about.


I see a partnership as 2 people making a go of some common goal. My father used the utensil analogy of couples who are a fork and knife, versus couples who are a pair of chopsticks. The differing expectations for yourself and for your SO means you need a fork/knife relationship. The job gets done, and each person has their role which is fixed by gender norms, or however you two decide.

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Maybe that’s true. But personally, with rich/successful guys, asking for money is like the WORST thing you can do. Even if your kids are like dying or you have to live on the street. You should be REALLY careful (and really just avoid altogether) asking for financial help of any kind. Just drop hints you’re struggling financially and if he really cares about you, HE will make the decision to give you money (and really the decision needs to be his). This is SO important.
Do not overtext. This is a big one as too much texting can destroy attraction. As a general rule, whoever is putting the most effort into the communication is the one doing the chasing. So if you want to be the pursued rather than the pursuer, then you must not overtext. Instead, look to keep the text ratio close to 1:1 and text the other person about as frequently as they text you.

I have observed a new wave of women who are currently with wealthy men, starting out as former classmates who have studied the same field or at some point (even if they are mothers with children at present) they were the female equal of the wealthy man before they role-played their feminine/masculine traits for family-purposes. Take Micheal Obama or even Hilary Clinton. The two women were married to former presidents of the United States. Michelle Obama was Barack’s adviser and teacher at one point in his law-school background. Michelle Obama went through law school before Barack did. Hilary Clinton was Bill’s classmate in Yale, which is where they originally met and dated.
A downside: the book directs you to online videos for more "secrets" which are really just teasers which lead you to another video they want you to pay for. I can see this as being an endless goose chase designed to keep you hooked & shelling out money while learning very little. I'd have more respect for the author & brand if they took a less scam-like approach. The video they want you to buy has a long intro to sell it which does the classic "play on women's insecurities & promise grand secrets to solve all of their romance problems in a matter of days" approach, one which many dating gurus do. I find it borderline insulting & I naturally expect it to under-deliver with super obvious "insight" repeated ad nauseam just as the rest seem to. This approach is unfortunate & detracts from a brand that has the potential to be more positive & actually useful, as opposed to the insulting junk I described at the outset.

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