First off I want to say thanks for your honest and refreshing post. It's rare and a wonderful thing for a guy to admit the challenges men face and try to act opposite of the gender stereotypes. I'm so sorry about your breakup and hope you find happiness and love. Please stay warm and loving and expressive. The right woman will appreciate it. I personally am the type who loves emotional expression in men.
Hi,so I met this guy on line two months ago. We started chatting regularly and eventually he gave me his phone number. I didn’t use it and instead gave him mine. It took him only couple of days to contact met. Since then we were texting each other pretty much non-stop all day. And most of the time it was him texting first. Eventually after three weeks we arrange a meeting in person. That was four weeks ago. During these four weeks he`d come to see me (he lives 30miles away) every night or every second night and we even spent our days off together. He was so into me and so opened about his feelings towards me. He always wanted to know how I feel about him and he tend to discuss the previous day via txts. He was the one who wanted to establish the relationship straight away (which I thought was a bit weird tbh) making sure that we are exclusive so I wouldn’t date other guys. Then he wanted me to tell my friends about him. Well eventually I did as we seemed to get on better an better. I thought he was quite sensitive and insecure as he kept telling me how he feels and asking me how I see things. Reading between lines it was like he doubted that I could like him. I didn’t get it. He was this typical good looking, cocky football player who spend a lot of time at the gym and posing in front of a mirror. Which I thought was hilarious and I kept laughing every time I saw him doing that. He kept talking about me meeting his children (he has 3) and his family. And also about our future. Quite frankly I thought it was all too quick but I never said a word. Then last weekend he came down to see me (even met two of my girlfriends) and we had a good time as always. He left on Sunday saying that he has a busy week ahead of him and if possible he`d come and see me in the middle of the week. I was completely fine with that. So as usual we spent all Monday texting each other although I though he was a bit distant in his text which I thought was due to his busy work load. On Tuesday he texted less saying he had no signal( which occasionally happened as he also works as gas engineer) and apologised saying he had a long bad day at work and not to ask. So I didn’t ask and just said that its ok that I understand. Since then I`ve not heard from him. I texted him couple of times but no reply. Its been, ,only,, few days but its very unlike him not to text at all. So I am really confused as I don’t know what`s happening.

Allow yourself to be your best self. Show him that you excel as a person when you’re around him. Show that he makes you a better person. Just as you look to see that he is better when he is with you, he will be looking for the same. Pursue things you love and make him feel included in that part of your life. Ask him for advice on how to better yourself. Be cautious, however, that he's not asking you to change something he shouldn't be. If you're concerned, ask a friend what they think.


If you want to use humor, Nerdlove suggests the safest route is to callback something from a previous interaction. For the cute guy from the gym, make a joke about the gym (or working out) since that’s how you met. You should be especially cautious, however, of using sarcasm in your texts. It rarely reads as well as it sounds in your head. If you really want to try, however, a study published in The Quarterly Journal of Experimental Psychology suggests that using some emoji, emoticons, or an ellipses can help. A text like “I can totally out-bench you ;-)” reads a lot better than the matter-of-factly “I can totally out-bench you.”
If you want to text a guy you like, send him a message bringing up something the two of you talked about or did together recently, or pick something totally random, like “If you could only eat one food for the rest of your life, what would it be?” Ask questions about his interests so you can get to know him better, and talk to him about the things you do on your own time. If he doesn’t respond much, he might be busy, so try not to overanalyze short messages or the time it takes for him to respond, and take a break from messaging him if he isn’t saying much.

* Please don’t waste my time. Although everybody’s time is finite, time is much more precious to a rich person because the dichotomy between time and money is wider. Rich men have less patience for relationship games and long term courtships. He needs to know whether she wants him or not. None of this “I’m in a weird place right now” while she goes off and dates multiple men. A rich man has no problem being a friendly suitor who meets up on random occasions. But there is no way a confused woman will ever snag herself a stable rich man.


I moved to LA after two years in New York, where there are a plethora of guys my age. Unfortunately, though I did go on dates, nothing stuck. Now, I’ve moved across the country. There could be a guy, even a friend of a friend (the perfect set-up!), currently living in New York who would be happy to be my boyfriend, but I’ll never know. Frequently, on the street in New York, I’d walk by a guy I could picture myself dating, and I’d want to blurt out, “What bar will you be at on Saturday, and why weren’t you also at The Jane last Saturday night like I was?!” Which brings me to:
I don’t care about getting a “rich” man– just a good man who can appreciate me for me. Yet it is still incredibly difficult, and I’m not sure why. Not to toot my own horn, but I do everything that is on your “women do this” list. Most of the guys I’ve dated have been in their mid thirties (I’m 26) and honestly usually know more about personal finance and money management than they do. I’m successful, own my own house, don’t depend on anyone to pay my bills, work hard, have big dreams, and know what it’s like to struggle (have lived through some childhood trauma). I never take things for granted because I learned very young that life can end in a second.
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Showcase your independence through what you say. That's another quality that can be fascinating to men. No one wants to be around a clingy and needy woman. To draw a guy to you, convey to him that you are an independent being with her own goals, dreams, hobbies, friends, values and ideas. Do not be afraid to voice your opinion. Make him feel like there is a reason to want to get to know you further.
This one should be a no-brainer but for some reason it often gets ignored. "Playing hard to get, teasing someone, acting fragile are all ways you can try and 'trick' someone into a kind of love," says Spurr. "But the fact is that if you want someone to care about you deeply, friendship is the key. When they're with you, they need to feel safe – game playing might help hook a someone in the first place, but it gets extremely tiring." Being supportive, listening to them, making them laugh, helping them feel good about themselves and life in general – these are the things that make someone really value you.

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Guys aren’t the best at expressing their feelings. So when a guy isn’t texting back consistently, he’s trying to give you a clue. Sure, it would be nice if he had a little more respect for you and just told you openly that he’s not that into you, but alas, that seems to be asking too much. So a lot of guys do what they do best — avoid the problem and hope it will eventually go away when you get the hint.


If there is one area I see women mess up time and again, it's in trying to define a relationship or tie a man down too soon. That's because her need to feel "safe" is in direct contrast to his innate desire for freedom and not being tied down. If you think about it, every soldier anywhere who has ever been killed in action has died trying to defend their idea of freedom.
You deserve better than mixed signals. If you have to constantly decipher his texts or lack thereof to figure out if he likes you then he’s just not worth it. If he’s not on his texting game with you, take the loss and move on. Don’t keep going after a guy who’s clearly not feeling it. Your heart might want something to happen, but listen to your head and don’t be desperate. Deep down, you know the meaning of an unanswered message.
#11 If you want to text him, do it. Now, if he’s not replying and you text him, stop. But if you haven’t spoken to him in a day or two, why not send him a text? You don’t need to wait for him to send you the first message. Let him know you’re interested in sending him the first text. This way, he either makes a move or not. [Read: How guys text when they like you – 15 things they do differently]
So, you’ve got the moobs like Jabba. Life’s just not fair, is it? Well, no, that much should be obvious. However, there may be certain things contributing to your bountiful bosoms that are within your control. While it’s not guaranteed that cutting out sugar or choosing a new moisturiser will flatten your chest overnight, a few lifestyle tweaks can have a positive effect.
If you have something to offer to rich man besides your looks, there is nothing wrong with trying to get a rich boyfriend or husband. In most cases, rich men are career driven and spend a lot of time trying to improve themselves. If you want to be with someone who always pushes himself to the limits, a rich man might be a great choice for you. If on another hand you just want to meet rich men so that you can sit the whole day at home doing nothing and expect him to pay for everything, it is a really bad approach.
The main reason that I don’t go after openly rich guys is because I believe that men who use their money in a flashy way are womanizers that attract their female-equivalents of whores and gold-diggers. I’m sorry for this negative stereotype of the dynamics of men/women, and I realize not all flashy men are bad, just like not every hooker or gold-digger is a bad person either, but I believe these extreme traits usually come from the less desirable characteristics of the opposite sex.
"This area is one of the most underrated erogenous zones. "The knees are full of nerve endings; that's why people are often ticklish there," says St. Claire. The backs of the knees are especially sensitive, since the nerves are close to the surface, she adds. For maximum sensual impact, swivel your tongue along the crease and then blow on the area. This puff of air will cause the moisture to evaporate, producing a thrilling hot-then-cold sensation. Plus, he'll be able to actually feel you breathing, which will tune his body in to yours and give your intimacy a surcharge.

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* Show a tremendous interest in your personal finances. Nothing is more attractive than a woman who has a strong command of her finances. The more a woman cares about her own financial well-being, the less the man has to worry about having to care for everything financial-related, even though he easily could. I recommend signing up for Personal Capital, a free financial software online that lets you track your cash flow, analyzes your investments for excessive fees, calculators your retirement financials, and tracks your net worth. I’m positive a rich guy will be super impressed with your financial savviness if you show him the app on your phone next time you meet up. Being financially wise is sexy!

This guy does the same thng. In the beginning he would txt but now very rarely. I usually would send tons of txts. One day i sent a sexy pic and he responded “i like that” and that was all. Well yesterday no txts. But at 9pm he txt and ask if i was mad at him. I said no ofcourse not. He told me to txt him at 9am this morning. I did but no response. Havnt txt him back yet. I think some guys do just want u to chase them to see how good they have u wrapped around their finger. But i learn fast. He is probably getting worried now bcuz two days in a row i held my ground. When he txt later i wont respond. He just pkaying games. Men do that. But he gonna be chasing me bcuz im going to give him the cold shoulder even tho i miss him terribly. If a guy really likes u and he see u are changing he will get scared and fix his attitude

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