Consider all the possible outcomes of dating your flatmate. If your dating relationship doesn’t work out, do you think you both could still continue being flatmates? Would living together be too much of a strain on a new dating relationship? If the age difference has you worried, consider how much age will truly impact your dating. Also consider how compatible you are together, your temperament, values, interests, and priorities. If these all seem to be a close match, then age shouldn’t matter so much.

Well said and agreed! It’s all about common courtesy and the respect you have for a person. Unless you have a career that requires you to be without your phone, there is no excuse that you can go 24 hours plus without responding back to someone’s text message. The advice given to females is to not act needy, yet then we are given advice that makes excuses for guys not responding…sure, sure it is possible that a guy was just busy when you texted him, but more times than most a man will make time to respond to you. That response can be “hey, I’ll text you later, kinda busy right now,” or a response to continue the conversation but the point is people don’t just put people off that they are interested in, in fear that the person will lose interest in them.
I humbly offer a different perspective. At 65, I am at a different age spectrum of many of your commenters. I have an FI that meets my needs now and heading into the future. A few years ago I suddenly lost my beloved husband of nearly 30 years. The struggle and searching journey proceeding from that massive loss has transformed much of my worldview. Chris and I shared an epic love. We started out with very little but a shared passionate attachment. But we held similar ethical standards, a commitment to hard work, the willingness to work in therapy when we derailed, love of parenting and so much more. We embraced joy and general silliness whenever possible. We put our love first…always.
I list this signal with some reluctance, and you can probably guess why. I would never advise a grown woman to twirl her hair to get a guy’s attention. It seems equivalent to the oh-so-ridiculous “bend and snap” from Legally Blonde. That being said, women do like to touch their hair. It gives us a rush of oxytocin and, according to research, we do it when we want men to approach us. Furthermore, according to research, men pick up on this and respond accordingly. So, yeah, obviously don’t start twirling your hair in an inauthentic come hither fashion. But if you do find yourself rearranging a curl or sweeping your hair from one shoulder to the other, roll with it.
To stoke your guy's interest, trail a yummy waiter with your gaze or flash a flirty smile at one of his friends when you know he's watching you. And it never hurts to make an extra bit of effort with your appearance when you know you'll be in a situation where other men will admire you. Just the possibility of other guys eyeing you all night will definitely make him appreciate that he's the lucky dog who gets to take you home.
That being said my husband was never until the last few years the primary breadwinner! Also, I can certainly say, w/ a great amount of thankfulness that he hated the horrific hours I worked! I hated his as well but I do believe the key is finding something (other than him referring to me as his “child bride” and his constant compliments that I’m his “arm candy”, I also find him devistatingly handsome!)
Don’t cheat on your boyfriend. The best way to guarantee that no one in your social circle will ever want to date you is to cheat on your boyfriend. Be loyal and keep your attention on him. If you’d rather be flirting and hanging out with someone else, then you need to break up with the guy you’re dating. It isn’t fair to either of you if you’d rather be somewhere else.
If you regard taxes as embezzlement then you do not deserve to live in the freest and most democratic country in the world. If you resent taxation per se then you perhaps should live alone in a forest like an animal and forsake all of the advantages of living in a civilized society. Do you also resent giving to charity? Taxation is excessive indeed in SOME states and cities (including where I live) and we do need greater fairness in the tax code but I resent people who think taxation is theft.
3. Email him links about his favorite TV show, which is the second season of “True Detective.” He loves that shows because it’s gritty and it’s what adults watch and he’s a fucking-a adult. Don’t just send him some random thinkpiece from a lame website like Vulture or Salon or The New York Times. Send him good links to smart blog posts that he can read on his chill Galaxy Note. If you loved him, you could go on a date with someone who works at HBO and ask him if Vince Vaughn really is that talented. That’s a really good question.
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