12. Look beyond his good looks. Don't be dazzled by a handsome face and buff bod. Is this guy worthy of winning your heart? "How good is he at relationships? How does he treat his mother? How does he get along with siblings, cousins and friends?" asks Brooks. If the answer to those questions is not too well, take heed. Once he is confident of your affections, he might revert to type and treat you like everyone else he "cares" about.
I met this amazing sweet man a few weeks ago in Florida at a social club/hotel (I’m from NY, he lives in Amsterdam & NY)… We realized that we had everything in common and could not stop hanging out together for the rest of the night. We made out, I went back to my room afterward. He called me in the morning (4 hours later) asked me to go running before he had to leave for the airport – I said no, he called again and came by to say goodbye and we made out. During the time we hung out he said that he loved that we both have 2 kids and that we could take our time getting to know each other. He texts me as he was boarding his plane and said he couldn’t wait to see me in Ny. 1 week later he calls and texts. We’ve been exchanging sexy messages… He told me he wanted to spend the entire day with me and wake up to me… So things seemed to be exciting. I wrote him 2 semi long mssgs a few days ago telling him I’m excited to spend time together, and reflecting on the time we spent together the first night and he doesn’t respond. Both mssgs sent during his work day, my off time. He’s a CEO and I’m a VP… He thought we were so compatible. Why hasn’t he responded to my last mssgs? Too long to respond to bc he’s too busy or losing interest? His last mssg to me before my 2 mssgs was – “I will not disappoint you”. (Think its sex related bc his texts are pretty flirty/sexy). Am I his NY girl? We’re both 40. He’s divorced and I’m single after a 2 year committed relationship. I just want to know so I can understand whether I should move on or keep him as an option. I know that my next move is to not reach out again. But should I forget him? What is happening?

Edit your small talk and you'll make a discovery: The less you tell him, the more interested he'll become in your day-to-day, as Susan, 27, can attest. "If I'm vague or dismissive about what I've been up to — like 'Oh, nothing. The usual. Work. Out with the girls' — Dave becomes eager to hear the story," she says. "And when he's the instigator, he listens more closely."
Depression in men is a treatable health condition, not a sign of emotional weakness or a failing of masculinity. It affects millions of men of all ages and backgrounds, as well as those who care about them—spouses, partners, friends, and family. Of course, it’s normal for anyone to feel down from time to time—dips in mood are an ordinary reaction to losses, setbacks, and disappointments in life. However, male depression changes how you think, feel, and function in your daily life. It can interfere with your productivity at work or school and impact your relationships, sleep, diet, and overall enjoyment of life. Severe depression can be intense and unrelenting.

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Hey Eric! I just wanted to say I have followed a lot of your advice on your posts, & so far it’s been working much better for me than before I knew ANY of this stuff about men. Following your advice I got a really cute guy (who I’ve crushed on for 2 years) go out of his way to ask for my number. Thank you for sharing your knowledge to us & keep it up!
Sometimes women tend to forget that men are human beings and they also have feelings like any other person. Even though every relationship has its ups and downs, successful couples have learned how to manage the challenges they face during their relationship.Challenges come with a lot of emotions not only for women but also men.They hang in there, tackle problems, and learn how to work through the complex issues of everyday life. All relationship problems start with poor communication. If you are willing to listen to you partner and be part of the solution and not the problem, then your relationship will automatically work out for both of you.

I, ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for quite sometime,,,,the problem with him is that he replies to my texts whenever he feels like,,,he doesn't pick my calls,,,,when he finds missed calls he doesn't call back,,,,we had an argument the other day and i went as far as abusing him,,,then it was yesterday when i apologised to him and he forgave me but he hasn,t change,,,,he still ignores my texts and doesn't pick my calls,,,,what should i do,,,i love him so much,,,,i Don,t want to loose him,,,,,

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Very fun read that captures the essence of teen angst; a quick moving, fun-filled novel. The plot is tangled, much like a teen's life, and the main character's voice is so true and real she had me intrigued early. Valentine captures the pull that so many teens feel between being themselves and wishing they were someone else, mixed with what their parents want, and how peers perceive them, or at least how they think their peers perceive them. Every aspect of this book is vivid and believable; the language is playful and the dialogue is dead on, even the teen's internal dialogue that made me laugh out loud. Great, light-hearted read that will make you smile. Highly recommend it!

Oh my Goodness! I just saw my comment from three years ago! I was reading the post on how to start a blog and stumbled on this post. Congratulations on your growth Mr Financial Samurai! I have gone on to date two rich men since my previous comment and I can say that all the points you made are true! What you failed to mention though is the complacency that being on such a relationship can sometimes bring especially if you are very young and neither established nor certain of what career path you want to take. I’m glad that I’ve been able to keep myself motivated and save obsessively otherwise I would have lost 3 years. I’m still in a relationship with 1 of them but I have decided to sponsor myself in graduate school in the USA even though my boyfriend always dismissed the idea due to distance. Like you said, he has the means to fly down whenever he wants! I’m Nigerian BTW and our men have the ‘Provider’s mentality’.

Roleplay. The same banter techniques that work in meeting and attracting someone in person also work great over text. Initiate a scenario in which you’re already a couple in some capacity: a husband and wife headed toward divorce, a rock star and a groupie, a pair of buddy cops on the case — anything else you can think of. Bantering through made-up roleplay is great; it provides a playful way to create a shared experience that makes the other person smile and feel more connected to you by sharing what your collaborative imaginations can come up with. Examples of how to get the roleplay rolling: “Green Sparrow, I’ve got the target in my sights! Should I take the shot? Over!” or “I’m in the lab inventing a new ice cream flavor. What should I bring us home for dessert, dear?”


It is not so much that the procurement of a wealthy partner is a problem as such I have found. The problem as an educated, above average, fit, woman of means myself is that when once I was able to procure a partner with means he proved to be unworthy and incompatible in other ways. By that I mean he struggled badly with the demons of alcoholism which was just terribly heartbreaking for me as a potential spouse. Moreover, as his fiancée, due to his sheer addiction (some would coin this textbook late stage alcoholism due to denial) it became an absolute deal breaker.
Im his strongest supporter in any and every endeavor as is he with me. To your point any woman hoping to find love needs to first LOVE THEMSELVES ENOUGH TO TAKE FULL RESPONSIBILITY OF ONES OWN SELF BOTH FINANCIALLY (no matter how much or little you have). This certainly includes never taking ones health or beauty (as women do know) your beauty will need a bit more care, if you will, to continue to look and feel fantastic after 40 (while my husband just seems to get more handsome as time passes (he’s 54 & Ill be 39 in the fall) and soon I’ll begin to look a bit older unless I truly tighten it up even more but to all of you looking for love or simply seeking to date a man who may be a bit out of your own financial bracket, my advice I’d advise you get out there & date and date a lot! But for Gods Sake don’t sleep with them all! I dated Golf Professionals, The men who went to the Golf Pros Clubs as Members (they made quite a bit more annually and I dated teachers, attorneys, men in sales, etc., I was only 22 when I met my husband to be at 24, and your advice is very good for those simply looking to meet a spouse! (perhaps wealthier than you or older or both?) Whatever your long term motivations are remember a few VERY IMPORTANT points!
Honestly I don’t think he doesn’t feel “confident”. Guys are chasers they love to chase women regardless if they think she’s too good for him. Speaking from personal experience he could just be talking to other girls on the side and feels guilty because he knows you’re genuine with your feelings,therefore claiming you’re too good for him. If a guy truly likes a girl and she’s mutually as interested, he wouldn’t just cut her off so quickly (except if he I having some serious deep issues)
You have a serious problem if he is too shy to talk with you. How will you ever communicate about all the important issues you are likely to face in a long-term relationship? I'm not sure what kind of a relationship you're in or how long you've been together, but if you can't convince him to trust you enough to open up and communicate with you, I genuinely believe you'd be better off with someone else. And I suspect he'd be happier if he waits until he finds a partner better suited to him. Either someone who is happy and comfortable with the silence or someone who has the unique qualities he needs to allow him to feel comfortable enough to be open and communicative.

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To marry a rich man is one thing! But to keep it going is another story! Yes he can afford what ever you like in life, but does he feel he is appreciated! There is a big difference between give and take! Can you cook a nice meal so he can be appreciated! although you don’t have to! Are you a person that can calm him down if he had a terrible day! Are you prepared to give him his own space! So having a rich man is one thing, but to keep it going is another! Nice things in life is fantastic, but is it appreciated by the good heart that is giving it?
This one should be a no-brainer but for some reason it often gets ignored. "Playing hard to get, teasing someone, acting fragile are all ways you can try and 'trick' someone into a kind of love," says Spurr. "But the fact is that if you want someone to care about you deeply, friendship is the key. When they're with you, they need to feel safe – game playing might help hook a someone in the first place, but it gets extremely tiring." Being supportive, listening to them, making them laugh, helping them feel good about themselves and life in general – these are the things that make someone really value you.

This guy does the same thng. In the beginning he would txt but now very rarely. I usually would send tons of txts. One day i sent a sexy pic and he responded “i like that” and that was all. Well yesterday no txts. But at 9pm he txt and ask if i was mad at him. I said no ofcourse not. He told me to txt him at 9am this morning. I did but no response. Havnt txt him back yet. I think some guys do just want u to chase them to see how good they have u wrapped around their finger. But i learn fast. He is probably getting worried now bcuz two days in a row i held my ground. When he txt later i wont respond. He just pkaying games. Men do that. But he gonna be chasing me bcuz im going to give him the cold shoulder even tho i miss him terribly. If a guy really likes u and he see u are changing he will get scared and fix his attitude
I broke up with my Ex fiance a few months back, in what was a whirlwind of an altercation, and was destroyed, I won’t even bother lying about it. Night after night, I racked my brain for a way to get her back. She wasn’t returning calls, emails or texts and our mutual friends said she wanted nothing to do with me. I was in rough shape until i found Lord Azeez email [email protected] com and he guaranteed me in 3days and surely she called me on the phone and and apologized
Like when I'm in my regular clothes like he stares at me alot and and I kind of think he likes me but when I'm in my school uniform he doesn't pay any attention to me and he doesn't bother to talk to me or get to know me but then when I asked him out he was like I don't know yet but I feel like if you really did like me he would come and talk to me to know me so we can get to know each other he talks more to the other girls and he talks to me it's like having to get to know each other if we can talk and then I'm going as soon as I'm starting the conversation and it's like he doesn't real want to talk to me in the longest conversation we've ever had is it was about like five minutes and then it just got really crazy and his first girlfriend knew that I liked it and then I tried to be friends with his girlfriend to get closer to him but that didn't seem to work but I don't want to really be a man stealer I want him to want me and I don't want to be his third where I want to be his number one so now I'm like crossed up and I don't even know what to do anymore I just stop talking to him in trying to get closer to him and he just left me alone and I left him alone and it was like that's that but I still really like him then I don't know what to do.
Stephanie is a junior at Lehigh University in Bethlehem, Pennsylvania where she is currently studying international relations with a minor in psychology and political science. When she's not researching and writing assigned articles for Her Campus, she is involved in extracurriculars on campus such as the Kappa Delta chapter, and Student Political Action Committee. Stephanie hopes her future consists of making the earth a more sustainable environment, helping underprivileged minorities, and advocating for women's rights. Additionally, her interests include skincare, tea, and traveling. She also really loves her dog and cat!
I love your answer JustMe. I am a female and went on from being a nurse to getting my doctorate in nursing- DNP. Being any type of nurse certainly does not constitute being affiliated with being a hooker. It sounds like the original female surgeon poster is lonely and in pain from being hurt in her own relationships. She is clearly lashing out in a demeaning manner. I hope she finds what she is looking for…and as for a surgeon, I’m sure she knows she made a very ignorant, rude and generalized statement stemming from her own experiences.
#22. Be calm when he is stressed – When a man is stressed it can be a HUGE problem, because he acts out of character, is unpredictable, may lash out at you, and may withdraw.BUT, instead of blaming him and arguing, just be calm and let the storm pass. He needs to know that you UNDERSTAND him in that area, and doesn’t need a woman who makes it all about “herself” when he has something stressful going on.

I feel bad for u… I feel bad she was an alcoholic.. But don’t give up there are a lot of girls out there that have motive they have good incentives.. I’m an average girl.. But everyone exept the person I’m with tell me I’m such a kind person I have customers come to me random to just thank me for helping them thanking me for being thoughtful thanking me for taking the time to just b understanding and kind.. Sometimes the good girls are disguised.. They work in retail.. Or ur local shops.. Take time to talk to one see i work in a pretty wealthy town.. I don’t judge.. Lol in fact if I guy ever rolled up next to me in a nice car or a beater.. I’d be confused.. Especially if it’s a nice car In fact I probably wouldn’t even think that ur actually talking to me and keep going.. And then me being a careful loyal girl.. The first thing I always say to someone trying to talk to me I’m in a relationship.. I believe to hide nothing.. Always tell the truth.. And if u ain’t got nothing nice to say don’t say nothing at all..

Before you hit send on your phone it’s important that you read the text message you’ve typed up. Check it for clarity, spelling and tone. Read it at least five times; you’d be surprised how easy it is to overlook the simplest mistakes. Besides, if you send him a powerful message that then has to be followed up with a spelling correction or explanation, the original message you’ve sent is going to lose it’s bite. So don’t sell yourself short, read your messages before sending.
I grew up poor. Not living on the streets poor, but longing for money to buy stuff. As a young child, if I wanted a pair of jeans, I had to go find an odd job like weed a garden/s or mow some lawns to earn enough to buy a pair of jeans. For that matter, any kind of item I wanted I had to go find a way to earn the cash ( legally) in order to purchase what I wanted. My parents had a house and property.. but divorced when I was young. hustling odd jobs was the only way I could make money as I wasn’t old enough to get a “real” job.

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I know a woman who went out with a man she met on OKCupid. The chemistry wasn’t there, so they decided to be friends. He invited her to a party he was hosting, and she brought her friends. Now they’re all friends, and the ladies often ask the gentleman for advice on reading men. That’s a bonus in my book, to have a male friend who can give you a different perspective on dating than your girlfriends!
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