Impossible for a man to believe that he is not carrying 90% of the load even if the woman does 90%. If the woman is the breadwinner, they think they are so smart to get a woman to do that. They may disguise it by saying they are so lucky, etc. In my marriage when I was very young, I did all the visioning, planning, and executing and convincing him that not spending $5. now would mean we had $10 to spend next year. It was so easy to get ahead with a little application, but to make himself feel like he was in control and behind it all, he was a slob and abusive to me, and then he could also blame me for no sex. He dumped me and claimed all our property (no character at all). I did check him out with people who knew him and the family and they all gave him the A-1 rating for being a good guy. But I was vindicated later when friends reported the second and third wives were abused in the same way. Never mind, I left and never looked back.
When you spend down the principle ( the original amount we saved), you don’t have money to be free. What being a millionaire means is that I can purchase organic foods instead of regular foods and when I go to the grocery store I don’t have to choose. I have a budget but it is a reasonable one and can purchase any food item I want with in that budget. But shopping for nice clothes is still out of the question.

@Eric, ask yourself and please be honest (I know that you like being straightforward) if that woman was indeed the one* (let me clarify the one, wouldn’t want you to think that I am stuck in a Disney Movie ending). The one: being a woman that you would consider as a serious long term partner, that you would be proud to introduce to your family and with whom you could see yourself having children. Would you really risk losing the relationship by blaming not responding to a text because you are busy.


Pinning down this date is a huge accomplishment. I have plenty of attractive friends who have bonded with a cute guy at a party and then never seen him again. Mutual sexual attraction is not enough; emotional compatibility is also critical. As I gulp down my drink that I will act like I’m going to pay for at the end of the date by “reaching for my wallet,” I pray that he realized my latest comment was sarcastic, that I didn’t sound like a complete idiot when he brought up politics, and that I’m exuding the confidence of Beyoncé. Also, that noise was just the sound of my chair moving against the ground, not a fart! Ugh, dates are hard. So hard that I don’t know if either of us will want to do this with each other again. Which brings me to:
All of the above. Take up a hobby or sport. Running is a good one as there are plenty of running clubs. It's actually quite inter active. I'd deffinatly concentrate in finding some friends, start taking an interest in people around you generally. The post man, the barista in your coffee shop. People around you at work. Nothing long winded but get into the habit of chatting to people. Good luck and enjoy
I met this guy who play in the band. I thought that he was very handsome. We started talking and he asked me for my number. We started to text for a few weeks, all of the sudden he slow down on texting me and he never even ask me out or anything. He seem like he is trying to make me ask him out. Last I texted him he never reply till now. Should I be worried about or should I even ask him why he not really answering to my text anything. That was going to be my text to him “you seem to be very busy and I don’t want to be a bother to you. Let me know if you still want to talk to me”. What should I do?
If you don't, perhaps you should consider wishing him well and walking away. But if you're confident the two of you can work it out, then give it a go. I do think one thing you should ask him is to promise he will phone you and tell you if ever he meets another woman he wants to sleep with. So you both know your relationship is over before he comes home and lies to you.
Look, it really isn’t that hard to control the situation over text, to really make a difference in the way he perceives you, to shift the balance in your favor. If you are not getting what you want from him, why not use some killer texting strategies to get into his head and launch the relationship to the next level?? Take a look below, you are only a click away from getting what you want.
Allow yourself to be your best self. Show him that you excel as a person when you’re around him. Show that he makes you a better person. Just as you look to see that he is better when he is with you, he will be looking for the same. Pursue things you love and make him feel included in that part of your life. Ask him for advice on how to better yourself. Be cautious, however, that he's not asking you to change something he shouldn't be. If you're concerned, ask a friend what they think.
The only thing I love more than writing is cheese... and hot dogs... and Netflix... and boys who are good at winking. I am a huge John Mayer fan, I refuse to wear a bra if I don't have to, and I'm essentially an insomniac who takes sporadic naps. I am addicted to filling up my cart online shopping and then realizing I am a broke college student and closing out the page. My greatest talent in life is being able to say all 50 states in alphabetical in under 20 seconds... my parents are very proud of me, as you can imagine. 
* Please don’t waste my time. Although everybody’s time is finite, time is much more precious to a rich person because the dichotomy between time and money is wider. Rich men have less patience for relationship games and long term courtships. He needs to know whether she wants him or not. None of this “I’m in a weird place right now” while she goes off and dates multiple men. A rich man has no problem being a friendly suitor who meets up on random occasions. But there is no way a confused woman will ever snag herself a stable rich man.
Sure, in an ideal world, a woman should be able to make her fortune and also have enough time to date, get married and have kids. Unfortunately, the problem is time. Getting rich takes a lot of time and it’s a myth that once you make enough money, you can just sit back and relax (actually the opposite). But with that said, this is not impossible but I do think it’s “harder” for a woman to become financially rich and THEN have kids (like when she’s 35-40) then the other way around. Mainly because by the time you become “rich”, you’re used to that lifestyle. To switch roles and suddenly be a stay at home mum and not worry about money anymore.. well does that happen when your source of income is solely on you?

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Nora's smart BUT she wants to be popular. So when she moved schools, her plan: never admit to anyone that she's actually smart, dumb down her subjects from AP classes to regular ones, join the cheer squad, and date the hottest, most popular, and possibly one of the dumbest guy in school, Jake. But when Adam enters the equation, her plans changed OR has to change.
Your comment was awesome. I’ve been single for a long time and would like to settle down. I’ve focused my career goals to a point where I’m comfortable with my life accomplishments, I continue to re-invent myself for purposes of self satisfaction as well as attracted interest for my suitor. I consider myself a woman of substance and look forward to the day when I can be appreciated fully by the man I love. Right now I’m resting in the fact that this day will come soon.

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Stop going to those stupid parties. Expand your personal zeitgeist. "Nice guys" are putting on guerrilla art shows, working with the NRDC, riding in mountain bike rallies, and campaigning to get morons tossed out of Congress. Why not join one of these groups and make a little difference in the world? The men you meet will sometimes be startlingly hot, but who cares? You'll have time to get to know 10 or 12 of the buggers and decide which one really does deserve you.
As single millennials, the “Should I text him first?” inevitably pops up in my friend group chats from time to time, followed by thorough deliberation. This time, I went straight to the source for the answers to what, if anything, is appealing about “the chase” when it comes to texting, what the game is about, and how to play. Five guys, ages 20 – 30, opened up about what goes through their minds before they hit send.

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Guys are looking for someone who will be loving and nurturing, and the best way to show him your mothering instincts is to express how much you care for others. Women who own a furry friend are seen as more suitable partners for long-term relationships because if you can take on the responsibility of owning a pet, you can pretty much take on anything!
While making plans, be as direct as possible. During their focus groups, Ansari and Dr. Klinenberg also noticed a texting trend they dubbed the “secretary problem,” where potential couples would spend so much time trying to “pencil each other in” they would burn out and the spark would fizzle before the first meetup. We asked Vanessa Marin, licensed marriage and family therapist and Lifehacker contributor, how to avoid the “secretary problem,” and she said it’s all about being specific:

Expensive hobbies, memberships, travel, affluent neighbors and friends, keeping up appearances requires a lot of income which means you pay a lot of taxes. Meanwhile, yoga, exercise, music, movies and living under tax radar (below $35,000) with tax exempt income in a comfortable paid up home with no debt means you pay NO TAX. I don’t resent paying taxes because I haven’t paid any since 2011 and I have never received any public assistance. Net worth, not income is the key to long lasting wealth and a 401K is taxable income when it is withdrawn so at some point investing in real estate as a tax shelter and holding stocks that pay some dividend keeps you tax free.

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As long as he looks like he did in his photo that made me swipe right, I’ll probably be attracted to him. But am I what he expected? Maybe looks-wise. But did he smell sweat in my armpits when we hugged hello? Did he notice when I accidentally spit, while talking? Is my forehead getting too shiny? (Yes. The answer to that one is always yes, no matter how much cover-up I wear). And let’s say we didn’t meet on a dating app. We lock eyes from across the room at a mutual friends’ party: mutual attraction at first sight. Thank G he and I both happened to be in town and available to come to this party! We start talking but can barely hear each other over the drunkest dude at the party standing next to me yelling along to Calvin Harris. So, we agree to meet in a quieter place at a later date. Which brings me to:
Perhaps these "practical" dating strategies feel like extra help to some of us. We don't want to acknowledge that we need outside assistance to meet someone. I'm not sure what to think of practical methods. It could be really helpful, but I can't seem to shake that "extra math help" feeling. Besides, if my dating skills are like my math skills, no amount of extra help could get me afloat.

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As a woman, I want an equivalent male-counterpart which is a complicated dynamic in our shifting roles. I do enjoy being taken care of and provided for. I do not, however, want to compete with hundreds of other desperate women going after wealthy men. That defeats the purpose of money providing stability and security as the basis of a relationship. It’s almost a catch 22.
Take a good look at yourself. Psychological studies have shown that people seek out partners to fill a psychological void. Sometimes these voids are unhealthy; for example a woman who is unhealthy will actually seek out any man for the "high of seduction" or to get attention and feel desirable. Look inside yourself and ask yourself why you want a man so badly, be truly honest with yourself, and, if need be, talk to a therapist about this. Someone with issues only attracts a guy with issues as well, and a good, real man doesn't want anything to do with someone who has more issues than TIME magazine. If you want a good, healthy relationship with a real man, make certain that your own mental state and intentions are healthy.
My guy went from texting every day to going MIA for a couple of days after I told him how I felt about him. I realized in reading this article that when I told him I liked him, it was for him and not for me…so while I would have liked a reply I didn’t need it to feel secure about his feelings. Ok, maybe I was a tiny bit worried about whether he would reply because he could have gone into the freak out phase. You were right, the sexy text did the trick. It took 3 minutes for him to get back to me after 2 days of radio silence. It felt good to give him something nice to look at during his long work day :)
I appreciate that this book is about subtle nuances too. Often we don't know what we do wrong because it's not anything big but a subtle signal, and we don't know why our positive signals are ignored & that's because they are TOO subtle. This advice rang true because I've noted men in general communicate more with action & are generally MORE sensitive than women, meaning they need LOUDER positive signals & SOFTER negative ones. The author refers to this as the "fragile male ego" which is really SENSITIVITY.

How Can You Make A Guy Fall For You


* Show interest in his business. A man wants to marry a woman who cares about where their money is coming and going. After all, the man has spend all of his post secondary education life working on a career or business that made him rich. It’s vital to understand what he does for a living and check in every so often to ask how things are going. There is always some new deal or initiative on his plate that he’ll love to share. Rich men always think they’ll bore their women to death with business talk so they don’t mention anything related. Take interest in the source of his wealth and you will go farther than any other woman.
Positive people are naturally attractive because everyone wants to be happy: If you exude positivity, you’ll be amazingly attractive, not just to the guy you want in your life, but to everyone. A positive attitude can ultimately change how you interact and relate in every relationship you have, whether it’s with a guy, loved ones, family, friends, or colleagues.
You’ve heard that opposites attract? Well, forget about that. Many studies have revealed that people are likely to be attracted to individuals who resemble them. Whether due to social, cultural, developmental or some deeper psychological cause, your man will likely be more attracted to you if you remind him of himself. Cut your hair, start wearing similar clothes, if cosmetic surgery is an option then go for that.
Now when it comes to "getting" your man, there is one thing you must not do if you want a man to see a future with you. Do not treat him like some kind of project that needs to be fixed because it immediately brings up the walls. If you have the urge to try to change his clothes, his circle of friends, the way he talks, what he loves to do — don't do it!

I am the co-author of Dying of Embarrassment, Painfully Shy, and Nurturing the Shy Child. Dying of Embarrassment: Help for Social Anxiety & Phobia was found to be one of the most useful and scientifically grounded self-help books in a research study published in Professional Psychology, Research and Practice. I’ve also been featured in the award-winning PBS documentary, Afraid of People. My husband, Greg, and I also co-authored Illuminating the Heart: Steps Toward a More Spiritual Marriage.


The main reason that I don’t go after openly rich guys is because I believe that men who use their money in a flashy way are womanizers that attract their female-equivalents of whores and gold-diggers. I’m sorry for this negative stereotype of the dynamics of men/women, and I realize not all flashy men are bad, just like not every hooker or gold-digger is a bad person either, but I believe these extreme traits usually come from the less desirable characteristics of the opposite sex. 

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Please understand that it doesn’t take a rich man/woman to be rich, happy, and content. What it takes is loyalty, honesty, trust, most of all communication and the willingness to compromise.Someone who you can share your deepest secrets without fear of how it may seems or sound because he/she truly understands everything and anything about you . Knowing that you have someone who will piss you off before you go to bed but wake you up happy just because he/she are next to you .
You have a serious problem if he is too shy to talk with you. How will you ever communicate about all the important issues you are likely to face in a long-term relationship? I'm not sure what kind of a relationship you're in or how long you've been together, but if you can't convince him to trust you enough to open up and communicate with you, I genuinely believe you'd be better off with someone else. And I suspect he'd be happier if he waits until he finds a partner better suited to him. Either someone who is happy and comfortable with the silence or someone who has the unique qualities he needs to allow him to feel comfortable enough to be open and communicative.
This guy added me on Facebook about a year ago and then messaged me on my birthday to ask me out for coffee.. At the time I was dating someone else and had to decline based on that and told him I appreciated the invite. A few months ago that boyfriend and I parted ways and a couple weeks ago I messaged that guy on Facebook and we started chatting for hours at a time online and eventually via text and seemed to really hit it off.. This last week we hung out several times and had a lot of fun. It seems he is into me by the way he talks and acts around me and I’ve made it clear I’m into him. However, since we hung out he hasn’t been the one to text me first and has been really inconsistent at times with when he eventually got around to texting me back. Either he takes up to 24 hours to reply or sometimes doesn’t reply at all. When we hung out he stated he had a lot on his mind right now and has been a bit stressed out with work. He works out of town on a 7 on 7 off schedule and seems to obviously have a lot of catching up to do with family/friends/life in general when he is home, so again I can understand the busy aspect of things.. I’m not a needy person, but I do text him maybe once a day just to say hello and to say that I hope he’s having a good day or that he was on my mind.. I feel like I’m getting some mixed messages now about whether or not he wants to be talking or even moving forward with hanging out. I’ve noticed at times that he has been active on social media after not responding to my texts right away.. I am somewhat inclined to straight up ask him if he still shares my interest in hanging out more and if he sees me as a possible girlfriend, but again it comes down to appearing needy or coming across too strong too early in the game. Is it better to be forward and ask straight up? Or should I just ride it out, stop messaging him for a while and see what happens? Could this just be an indication of his texting habits and maybe I’m reading into it too much?
I have a question. It’s similar but with a few different factors. I’ve been dating this guy for 7 months now, and we’re currently in a long distance relationship. We were dating and in the same place for 2 months, and now we’ve been long distance for almost 6 months. I’ve seen him once in this long distance time, and I’ll be seeing him again in two weeks. He’s from South Africa, but he currently works at a school in the Middle East, where I was working. A lot of my friends stayed there too, so I know many of his friends and coworkers. We really fell in love and he suggested we stay together and do the long distance thing. And he’s paying for me to come to his brothers wedding in two weeks in South Africa. He’s been planning for our future for next year, where we’re looking for schools to work at in a different country. When we’re together, everything’s great, and he’s kind and sensitive and attentive. But when we’re apart, I sometimes feel like he forgets about me. When we part initially, he’s very attentive with messages and texts and skypes and letters. He’ll say things like “you are my everything” and “I miss you” And will want to know when we’re skyping next. But after a while, especially with this longer separation (4 months), he just got really busy, and then I felt left behind. At least a text or two in the day but nothing major, no more fluffy stuff really– that only very occasionally. He likes me to send him sexts and pics and will ask for them, but sometimes he doesn’t even reply to those! We’ve had a few arguments about it because I don’t understand why he can’t find the time to send little messages anymore or even respond to the messages I send. He seems to be fine with this kind of a relationship, but since we never see each other, I want to talk more, but it makes me seem needy and makes him pull away if I bring it up. What do I do wrong? Why did he get all distant? is he trying to imply that he’s over it and doesn’t want me to come on this trip? But he sends me emails about jobs for next year, but he forgets to text “I love you.” I don’t understand! And how do I then adjust my texting style?
For my case though I disagree that money makes me feel more attractive. I’m rather reserved with how I use my money as well. I don’t spend it on things that show wealth like cars and clothing. I usually spend it on things that I enjoy but others won’t see like Good restaurants business class flights and really good cooking apparatus. This mindset of I want to shop among everyone else in walmart with millions in the bank and not a single other person would know it is likely because I don’t want a woman to want me for my money. I want her to want me for my hardworking ethics and I seek that in a woman mostly as well.

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Straddle your husband as he lies on his stomach, and then press your mouth firmly into the nape of his neck. With your tongue flexed so it's pointy, probe the grooves on each side of his vertebrae, slowly working your way down to his tailbone. "Essentially you're giving him a shiatsu massage using your tongue instead of your fingers," explains Hess. If massages usually lull him to sleep, don't be surprised if this one has quite the opposite effect. When you use your lips instead of your hands, your massage instantly goes from relaxing to racy.
i broke up with my bf 7 months ago and it was my fault. But then i even apologized to him on facebook but he didnt reply. Then yesterday after 7months i phoned him and again apologized and asked him to patchup with me. He accepted my apology but didnt accept to patchup. Then i sent him a friend request and he accepted it. But when i messaged him, he didnt reply. Please tell me what should i do. I strongly want him back. I’ll appreciate your help. Stay blessed!

Things To Text Your Boyfriend To Turn Him On


A close second, highly powerful, signal that a guy should make a move is a smile. A smile tells a wary man you like him and, more importantly, you aren’t going to humiliate him by shutting him down if he risks approaching you. It’s not that you need to go around smiling all the time, but when you make eye contact, flash him a smile too, and he should get the message. The message is nicely delivered with very little effort on your part—there doesn’t even have to be a break in the friendly banter you were engaging in. Which brings me to our third signal.
Hi Eric, I’m in no relationship right now. I’m on a dating site and matched well with a guy. As we messaged, he stated, we have a lot in common. He asked to start texting so we did. In two weeks we sent pic’s of ourselves his were naked, he called min sexy, ckassy, he loves them, and had phone sex twice. He keeps saying we need to meet, when we set a day and time he was getting sick. Fine, I believe him. You suggested a sexy pic. Good idea. It’s fun, but is there a way to ask him if he still wants to get to know me? And, What is the standard of getting to know one another if the dating sites are where I’m meeting guys. I understand he and other guys are tired from work and are busy on days off and talking to other women on the site. Thank you for your time, Kim
I didn’t have any trick. I just came to him and be myself, joking, and laughed together. I didn’t ask his job, he told me later on. I didn’t see him as a wealthy man. I saw him as a person, just like me. Months later, I met another rich guy. And simply just joking around and laughed. Now I am close to a rich guy too. He is nice guy and polite. Most of this typr of guy has a freakin’ busy life, travelling from country to country. I expect nothing, just have fun, no pressure and just let things flow naturally…
As for marrying a rich man, here is my experience. I dated a lot of wealthy and extremely rich men over the next 15 years and then realized I just did not want to compromise in any way. I like the idea of a compatible partner though. But there is no way I would marry a rich man without character or one who spent all the time on business. That is addiction or a preference, not a requirement to make money. I know enough wealthy and extremely rich men and women to know that the smart ones do not spend all their time on the phone or away. They take a lot of time to enjoy life. If they are into you and vice versa, they have plenty of time to pay attention on a long term basis.

Chopstick couples do what each needs to do in a coordinated effort to get the job done, no fixed responsibilities that are the sole job of one person or the other. Sometimes it works out to leverage the strengths of one person over the other, like my husband will go get a needle and thread to fix my pants while baking bread and watching football… and I’ll be reading a PF article and picking ETFs, sitting next to him while doing the laundry. Things get done to both our benefit.

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Do what he asks you to do, without question – If a man asks you for a favor, and you question him and say “why”…he will instantly feel like you just don’t want to do it. If you have to ask him why, it sounds like you need him to CONVINCE you to do it.If he has to convince you to do things, do you really understand him?#2. Maintain yourself – Men are visual, which means if you let yourself go, he will lose interest. He doesn’t want to commit to a woman who is only going to get worse. Maintain yourself physically and health wise, to prove you are willing to be the best you can be for him.
Please understand that it doesn’t take a rich man/woman to be rich, happy, and content. What it takes is loyalty, honesty, trust, most of all communication and the willingness to compromise.Someone who you can share your deepest secrets without fear of how it may seems or sound because he/she truly understands everything and anything about you . Knowing that you have someone who will piss you off before you go to bed but wake you up happy just because he/she are next to you .

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i broke up with my bf 7 months ago and it was my fault. But then i even apologized to him on facebook but he didnt reply. Then yesterday after 7months i phoned him and again apologized and asked him to patchup with me. He accepted my apology but didnt accept to patchup. Then i sent him a friend request and he accepted it. But when i messaged him, he didnt reply. Please tell me what should i do. I strongly want him back. I’ll appreciate your help. Stay blessed!
I’m considered wealthy and successful by scale I suppose but I don’t make $10MM a year or anything. I could within reason purchase most anything I wanted at any point that wasn’t aimed at the ultra rich but I’m a fairly normal MidWestern guy…just living life and enjoy being a businessman (although I didn’t really enjoy being an engineer…we’ll just call it a stepping stone).
To each her own. You can be a power player and prove to yourself, the world or to whomever all you want, but you cannot tell other women what they “should” do with there own lives. Your living situation is not the desired norm. Not everyone see’s the human population as two massive armies in oppostion (men versus women) but rather as unequal masses that function better as counter weights for each-other, just as you have found your own counter weight (closeted hubby or long haired wife). As long as men and women are (mostly) different, we can never be truly equal. Not a good or bad thing, thats just how it is.
You’re right I may be portraying women too gloriously, but I suspect the kind of women you’re talk to are young (early 20s). Of course young women fantasize about having money and spending it more than having kids. But despite what these women say, thoughts of kids will come up eventually.. either as a way to “secure” the man or their priorities will change; believe it or not, women will get bored and if a rich man can’t offer love and attention as readily as a poor man will, kids will do the job!
The best way to keep a conversation going and get to know someone better is by asking questions. Start off with the basic questions: what kind of music are you into? What’s your favorite movie? As the convo continues, try diving into some more personal questions: what’s the most embarrassing moment in your life? How long was your last relationship? Why did it end? Keep the questions rolling!
Some people can’t keep up with your bold spirit — but that’s their problem, not your's! Amazing opportunities come to you because you rarely back away from what you want, and your boldness will weed out any crushes who can’t commit to the adventure. Find someone who matches your fervor for life — or consider a shyer soul who will appreciate your take-charge attitude.
Surely, it's okay no be insecure and feel the need to have a good reputation. Valentine was able to successfully pull off a good development for Nora. This is nothing but a cliche story, if you ask me. Nora is in desperate need to get everything she wants. She finds her self in so many 'swaps' because of trying to achieve her a goal which is to get as close as possible to Adam.
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