I have a question. It’s similar but with a few different factors. I’ve been dating this guy for 7 months now, and we’re currently in a long distance relationship. We were dating and in the same place for 2 months, and now we’ve been long distance for almost 6 months. I’ve seen him once in this long distance time, and I’ll be seeing him again in two weeks. He’s from South Africa, but he currently works at a school in the Middle East, where I was working. A lot of my friends stayed there too, so I know many of his friends and coworkers. We really fell in love and he suggested we stay together and do the long distance thing. And he’s paying for me to come to his brothers wedding in two weeks in South Africa. He’s been planning for our future for next year, where we’re looking for schools to work at in a different country. When we’re together, everything’s great, and he’s kind and sensitive and attentive. But when we’re apart, I sometimes feel like he forgets about me. When we part initially, he’s very attentive with messages and texts and skypes and letters. He’ll say things like “you are my everything” and “I miss you” And will want to know when we’re skyping next. But after a while, especially with this longer separation (4 months), he just got really busy, and then I felt left behind. At least a text or two in the day but nothing major, no more fluffy stuff really– that only very occasionally. He likes me to send him sexts and pics and will ask for them, but sometimes he doesn’t even reply to those! We’ve had a few arguments about it because I don’t understand why he can’t find the time to send little messages anymore or even respond to the messages I send. He seems to be fine with this kind of a relationship, but since we never see each other, I want to talk more, but it makes me seem needy and makes him pull away if I bring it up. What do I do wrong? Why did he get all distant? is he trying to imply that he’s over it and doesn’t want me to come on this trip? But he sends me emails about jobs for next year, but he forgets to text “I love you.” I don’t understand! And how do I then adjust my texting style?
I moved to LA after two years in New York, where there are a plethora of guys my age. Unfortunately, though I did go on dates, nothing stuck. Now, I’ve moved across the country. There could be a guy, even a friend of a friend (the perfect set-up!), currently living in New York who would be happy to be my boyfriend, but I’ll never know. Frequently, on the street in New York, I’d walk by a guy I could picture myself dating, and I’d want to blurt out, “What bar will you be at on Saturday, and why weren’t you also at The Jane last Saturday night like I was?!” Which brings me to:
Treat him with respect. This is the most important thing of all. Men hate being around someone who emasculates them, and a good man won't take long to leave such a person. Don't be afraid to help your man feel good about himself. A little known secret is that men are just as insecure as women. If he's with his friends or family be open to opportunities to let your man look like "the man". It will win his love and respect.

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What makes people attracted is never "badness" (well, maybe the broken -1% will feel attracted to bad people), but confidence, coolness and the sense that you don't have to take care of someone else like a mother/father. People like it when someone acts as if they have their life together, like they have control over their emotions, like they are balanced. Like they won't make their lives more complicated by dating them. A little aloofness also makes things more spicy, as passions diminishes really bad after we get to know each other for long. Women like that also attract the regular guys like crazy.

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I’ve been going out with a guy for about three months now. He always tells me he really likes me, he’s very jealous and buys me flowers everytime he sees me. However, he has a tendency to “disappear”. By this I mean he will switch off his phone and go a whole day without talking to me and then say he was a bit busy. Recently he’s started to ignore my messages too .. What does this mean ?? What should I do ??
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Have a life. Desperate, dramatic, and clingy relationships are often rooted in a feeling of need and desperation for a man to fill your life. Even if you have low self-esteem, work over time to build it. Pursue your goals and be focused, explore your passions, have an interesting life, do things that take you outside your boundaries. Don't put up a tough exterior to get over shyness; gradually learn to build trust with a network of people, so that your boyfriend isn't the only person you open up to and share your life with. Also remember to trust yourself first. If you can't trust yourself, you are likely to not trust your man.


Guys who are actually interested will make time for you. Everyone’s busy AF, but if a guy actually cares, he’ll do whatever it takes to be in your life. That means he won’t leave you hanging on a text. He’ll text back because he actually wants to talk to you. Seeing your name light up his phone will make him happy, not annoyed, and he’ll be more than happy to shoot over a few words to keep the conversation going. 

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According to financial samurai’s “semi-sliding” scale, I guess I fall into the category of a “rich man” (offhand and on average $730k/yr income depending plus my business equity worth and investments) and I DEFINITELY see that women who would normally be out of my reach are more interested in striking up a conversation. I don’t think it buys you an automatic “in” with those kind of women but it certainly helps.
#28. Respect him – If he has boundaries, don’t cross them.If he values privacy in certain areas, observe it. If there is something you dislike about him, don’t go complaining to your family and girlfriends about it, behind his back. There are many examples, but the main point is that you RESPECT him, so that he can feel valued, appreciated, and upheld.
* Be your own person. Thoroughly pursue your dreams and do not give up until you get there. It’s important not to compromise your standards for a rich man. If you’ve always wanted to make it on Broadway, don’t you dare leave New York City to be closer to a man who lives in Chicago. If your dream job demands that you travel for three months a year, go for it and don’t look back. The more you focus on what you want, the more the rich man will want you. He has the financial resources to move, travel, or buy a piede de terre where you live if he wants to be with you so don’t worry about not pursuing your goals.
Now I know that text fighting isn’t something that you’d intentionally actually do, but it happens way too often in relationships. Couples will actally fight over the text message. In order to reach reconciliation to solve the fight, you can’t do it over text. You actually need to get on the phone and talk. But when fighting over text, it causes both of you to not actually want to talk to each other, and especially the guy. So, it can look something like this…
Your comment was awesome. I’ve been single for a long time and would like to settle down. I’ve focused my career goals to a point where I’m comfortable with my life accomplishments, I continue to re-invent myself for purposes of self satisfaction as well as attracted interest for my suitor. I consider myself a woman of substance and look forward to the day when I can be appreciated fully by the man I love. Right now I’m resting in the fact that this day will come soon.

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Sometimes, women think they need to hide their silly sides out of fear of looking goofy or unattractive. We think we have to be playing with our hair and thinking we are the hottest things in the world to get a man’s attention. But this really couldn’t be further from the truth. Men LOVE a woman who isn’t afraid to be silly and goofy from time to time. It’s surprisingly a major turn on! So go ahead and say those silly comments that pop up in your head or bust out that hilarious joke you heard at work earlier. I’m sure he will certainly appreciate your sense of humor and will be glad to have met a woman who is confident enough to show her silly side.
I suppose this is why I feel ambivalent about the subject. I’ve been on both sides of the story. Who I am today is someone who is motivated to BE someone on my own–I’m the breadwinner, I need to prove to myself I can do this. But I suppose for the women who really want to lock down a rich dude, I can advise. It would be fun to talk about it like that. I never really have before.
So there you have it, 5 secrets for texting a guy you like. And to serve you in your love life, if you want to go deeper in this, we have written a texting guide for you. It is a fantastic e-book and it’s free! It’s a gift from me to you, I’ve posted a link right here in the description. You can go and click that link. Get that free texting guide. It will really serve you in your love life.

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Until the day I fell in love with a poor guy who was the love of my life and I decided that I had all the tools to become wealthy on my own. Also, most people don’t share your respect for “resourceful women”. Being an Asian female, society is specifically very hard on “young pretty Asian girls with old rich white guys.” I didn’t want to be that chick. And I didn’t want all of my accomplishments, even if I genuinely did it on my own, to be because I married some wealthy powerful guy. I had been through enough crap not being given enough credit for my accomplishments in my life because I was “pretty”, but I’d lose ALLLL of my credit, past and future, if I married some rich dude. I wanted the respect that came with earning it all on my own. I grew up poor, I worked hard for everything I had, and I didn’t want to be seen as someone who took the easy way out. I mean, I worked hard in school, went to a Tier 1 US college, and studied abroad at one of the highest ranked universities in the world, for what, to impress a rich dude with clever conversation that they don’t usually hear coming out of a model chick’s mouth?
Despite what you may think or your past experience — you may never know just how much a man really does want to please you if he is able. In fact, the problems show up when he no longer thinks he can please you. Men are very simple creatures. They demonstrate their value by solving problems and fixing things (and occasionally they may make the mistake of trying to fix you).
Men can seem terrifying when they’re strangers, which your future boyfriend probably is at this stage. A way to iron out this insecurity is to really look at them. Rather than having an instantaneous reaction of “thrust” or “throw up”, assess their personality and their physical form. What is he reading on the tube? What is he saying on the phone to his mum in the café? Do it with strangers, colleagues, friends of friends. You’ll find you warm to men that you instantly dismissed just by focusing on a few details, and you’ll also be surprised to be turned-off by some of the gorgeous specimens too. This does three things: it normalises men, so that you don’t feel nervous around them. It also gives you hope – you will fall in love again. And it gives you a bit of an inkling of what kind of guy you might want to date.

Gently graze your lips (keeping them as dry as possible) across his forehead, looping slowly over to his temple and then down to his mouth. This dry brushing, as Hess calls it, will have a completely different feel from the usual wet kiss. That's because the face is covered with nearly invisible fuzz called vellum hairs. A slight, subtle touch will activate these hairs, inducing sublime shivers.
Well there’s this guy that I really like but he already has a girlfriend and I already told him I liked him and he said he didn’t like me as a gf but he said that I was kind and all but. I still want to go out with him and all, is there anyway he still likes me or he probly might go out with me because I’m clueless and broken hearted that he said that I need help and tips/guides
Endless bench presses won’t shrink your chest. To ensure you fill your shirt in the right way, you need to focus on exercises that work as many muscles as possible. “The more muscles you move, the harder your body works,” says Leo Savage, a personal trainer at luxury London gym Third Space who recommends compound moves that recruit the body’s biggest muscles, like deadlifts, squats, and pull-ups.
Neediness is crippling to the quality of any relationship (whether it’s a guy or woman acting needy) and it’s something you need to prevent from creeping into your mind at all costs.  Needy texts are guaranteed to be ignored by a guy. Personally, I don’t ignore needy texts out of cruelty – I ignore them because it’s an insatiable relationship monster that I don’t ever want to feed (metaphorically speaking).
Neediness is crippling to the quality of any relationship (whether it’s a guy or woman acting needy) and it’s something you need to prevent from creeping into your mind at all costs.  Needy texts are guaranteed to be ignored by a guy. Personally, I don’t ignore needy texts out of cruelty – I ignore them because it’s an insatiable relationship monster that I don’t ever want to feed (metaphorically speaking).
Look your best. That doesn't mean changing yourself to impress another person. Take pride into your appearance to give yourself an aura of confidence that can be highly attractive to someone you want to attract. Make a point to always be well-groomed and clean, from your hair to your teeth. Dress and accessorize to accentuate your finest feature, whether it's your hair or your height.
I totally agree with Brooke. Here is the quote from this article that I find most sexist: ‘Orient your mind towards giving him what he likes, not on what you want to get from him’ . The implicit suggestion here is not to expect anything in return. So send him sexy photos, keep it light and fun to entertain and please him, but when it comes to giving the woman what she wants, i.e. to be heard, loved and respected, then that woman is labelled as ‘needy’. How very convenient for men! A good relationship is about give and take, and men would and should be expected to be respectful towards their women and respond to texts. I am not talking about obsessive and demanding texting, of which men are also guilty, but normal communication between two people who treat each other with love and respect. If a man is not responding to you, then he does not respect and does not appreciate you. You need to move on.

Seriously? The odds of that happening are about as unlikely as me ending up sitting between three crying babies on my redeye home to Philadelphia for Thanksgiving. (Logically it should almost never happen but believe me, it can). This logistic is why I struggle with the iconic rom-com Serendipity. Sara had it made. She was in the same department of the same Bloomingdale’s at the same time as Jonathan. But, no! She had to throw it away just to prove a point. And she still gets him in the end? Smh. Luckily, in 2017, we have dating apps to control exactly what Sara was too optimistic to appreciate. We can plan to meet at a specific place. Then we can hope we’re not getting cat-fished. Which brings me to:


* Be where rich men are. We tend to end up with people who roam our environment. Pilots date stewardesses, cooks date waitresses, bartenders date everything that moves, doctors date nurses, and Facebook employees date Twitter nerds. The majority of men over 30 who work in banking, management consulting, high tech, big law, and venture capital are on the path to top tier wealth if they keep on saving and working for just one more decade. Attend charity events, volunteer programs, or opening night galas. Rich men love to network while supporting a cause. Lay on a beach at a five-star Hawaiian resort. All Hawaiian beaches are public. Take up traditionally expensive sports like golf and less so tennis which have private clubs. Go to alumni mixers with a friend who went to a prestigious university. There are at least 700,000 men in America (out of 1.4 million $380,000+ tax returns) out there after all.
My dad is a ‘rich man’ and my mom a trophy wife. I love them both, but growing up I knew I never wanted to be my mom. She doesn’t have a lot of autonomy in their relationship. She has a beautiful life, but it’s always been subject to his approval. That said, now it would be hard to find a man who lives up to my dad, even though I wouldn’t want to be my mom, I still wouldn’t want to marry less than my dad.
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When it comes to knowing how to text a guy you like, it can be tricky. It sounds easier than talking to him face-to-face, but it’s actually not. You have more time to think of a reply, something funny and witty to grab his attention, but there’s always a chance for miscommunication when it comes to looking at a screen instead of someone’s face. See what I mean?
I met a guy and we met on a Friday night which is rare to begin with. He then preceded to ask me out Saturday night so all was good. We went out the next 2 weekends and started to talk about my personal life. I am in a situation similar to a situation that he just got out of with a 5 year GF. As soon as he found out my Mom lived with me he told me he needed time. A few days time is what he said he needed, but I couldn’t let it go, I kept hounding him and text bombing him. He has not replied to any of my texts for a week now. Is there any chance of getting him back?
Hey, my name is Mat Boggs. I’m the author of Project Everlasting and am a dating and relationship coach. I’ve been featured on the Today Show, CNN, Headline News, and the Hallmark Channel. And we recently recorded a video on how to text. Because as you know, texting can be extremely frustrating, it can be confusing, and it can build up anxiety around you know, what do I respond, how do I text back. And so, we created a video on the secrets to texting that got a ton of views. And so I wanted to share it with you, to help you in your love life.
#1 Be yourself. This is the most important thing to do. Just be yourself. When behind a screen sometimes you show the person who you think you can be as a way to impress them. But don’t do it. When they see you in person, they see a completely different person, so what’s the point? Just be yourself when texting him. [Read: 14 steps to take to love being you]

This second batch of reasons is perfectly legitimate. But if, when you’re really honest with yourself, you agree with some of the first batch of reasons why you want a boyfriend, I encourage you to explore those reasons. As I said before: being lonely isn’t the end of the world. It can actually be really fulfilling if you let it. If you want a more robust social life, go out with your friends or make new ones. If you’re horny, well, you don’t need a man to help with that. 😊 And if you want to make your ex jealous? Grow up. You’re better than that.
Considering that you’re already considering going to extreme lengths to manipulate your partner to prevent him from ever leaving you, why not just kidnap him outright? Holding him hostage in a perilous and unnerving scenario may well induce Stockholm syndrome, strengthening any existing bond between you via the mechanism of mortal peril and domination. Your grandchildren will love to hear this romantic tale.

There was a clear divide here. Two out of three of the 20 – 23 year olds said there is nothing appealing about someone being “hard to get.” David, 20, clarifies, “It makes them seem conceited and uninterested.” Nate, 30, weighs in with the younger crowd on this one, stating that “nothing” is appealing about a girl who is “hard to get.” He advocates the “straight to the point” approach: “I am always one who is aggressive and goes after what I want. You know pretty quickly if someone is into you or if you are into them. Whether it’s via text, at a bar or Steak ‘n Shake, “hard to get” is a thing of the past. I have noticed over past 3-4 years even females have been more aggressive in pursuit.”
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