Confused as I can possibly be. Our phone conversations are fantastic – we talk about everything, very in depth conversations about different things. Now I haven’t heard from him in more than a day and I literally have no idea why that is. We usually text every day – he recently had a large work project which he told me he would me very unavailable, so I didn’t expect any texts but he would still send me something during the day just a quick “I miss you” or “Thinking of you”. He is back, we have texted and talked by phone then yesterday – nothing – for the first time in 3 months – absolutely nothing. I text him yesterday day morning to say I hoped his meetings went well and that I knew he would be awsome in his work and that I was thinking of him. He has just started a new personal project that he is working on and we have talked about extensively. And now NOTHING!!!! He has told me he more than cares for me and that one day it’s just all going to come spilling out. He and I talk about the unusual connection we both feel and on and on. I am just so torn because I have feelling for this person and from everything he has said, he does as well. I have not text him since yesterday morning and I do not plan to. I feel like the ball is in his court at this point. I just enjoy him so much and as I said, I care for him. I have a very full life myself so I am busy with projects of my own. So I understand very much being busy. I just find it odd that during his other busy times, he still found a second to send me a quick message and now….????? I have told him how those little messages make me feel special and how much I appreciate him taking the time to send me that to let me know he is thinking of me. Almost as soon as I acknowledged those things – he hasn’t done it. He asks me if I am happy – and I answer that I am – because I am a happy person – I don’t rely on him to make me happy – he ads to my happiness however, which perhaps I should tell him that in that way, I usually just answer that questions with a “yes, I am”. And I have been, until right now – I am utterly confused – my heart feels like a small hole has formed for some crazy reason. HELP!!!!!!!!
Ladies! I can’t stress this enough. We don’t like to be bored, right? So what makes you think he wants to be bothered with a boring, lifeless conversation? Try to stay on interesting topics and when the convo starts fizzing out, try to spark it up once more or let it die. But the worst thing you can do is try and keep a one-word text message conversation going.
Flirting Via Text
The most important thing to remember is to set your heart not on a man, but on Jesus. If you’re spiritually and emotionally settled, you will be infused with love, light and peace that will make you happier than any man could! Finding a good boyfriend is a wonderful part of life. God made us to be together, to be in couples and love each other 🙂 But we can’t rely on men to make us happy, for they are only men.
He’s also someone I admire & one of the most intelligent men I’ve ever had the pleasure of meeting (& marrying). As you elude to being supportive and taking an interest in (“the target” or the “ATM’s”, as I’ll refer to the subject that a lady in this instance would like to nail down.) ones career and being a woman who when I met my husband had a home, Bew Jeep Wrangler,Amazing wardrobe and my private life and finances in order very young as I moved out at 19 when an investment (my 1st home came along and was a very doable and smart money move!). So at only 22 in what’s considered a more “she-she” area of Baltimore,( Doctors & Attorneys lived on my street & I loved them and the women they dated and married because it taught me that if you click you click! Otherwise, a bohemian chick w/a computer graphics job wouldn’t have married and (made my MD (Vascular Surgeon fall in head over heels! And he still is today & this girl didn’t come from money! But she kept his attention & still has it. The vascular Surgeon was taken right off of the market by a darling woman who hated his job!
This one may seem like a no-brainer, but science has proven that smiling increases your attractiveness to the opposite sex. But make sure it's a genuine smile. You don't want to come across as fake. Whether he's paying you a compliment or telling you a funny story, flash him those pearly whites to appear more attractive and to nudge him down the path of falling in love!
Women like to know that they can attract men and personally, I like dressing very classy and I do enjoy most the high end of life. I still think it is important for me to work part time despite having a man in my life who has lots of money. That is not what attracts me the most- it is more the caring, loving and affectionate side – of course the financial situation helps however I am fully aware of the dangers that money can bring.
You can’t make someone be your boyfriend, silly! This isn’t Harry Potter! This is where you have to be strong enough to see when something isn’t working. If you’re five dates in and you feel completely comfortable with the guy, the sex has been amazing, and you’ve sussed out that you share the same values – politely inform him that you would like to make this official because you think he’s bloody amazing. He’ll probably (hopefully!) reciprocate.