#1 Be yourself. This is the most important thing to do. Just be yourself. When behind a screen sometimes you show the person who you think you can be as a way to impress them. But don’t do it. When they see you in person, they see a completely different person, so what’s the point? Just be yourself when texting him. [Read: 14 steps to take to love being you]


“After about two months, other reactions take place,” Fanelli says.  These are less lust-based, and more comfort-based. Cuddling is one way to keep the chemicals flowing, which Fanelli says, makes you feel warm in the closeness of that other person. The chemical oxytocin is released during cuddling which brings feelings of attraction. Pop in a movie and get your cuddle on!
As single millennials, the “Should I text him first?” inevitably pops up in my friend group chats from time to time, followed by thorough deliberation. This time, I went straight to the source for the answers to what, if anything, is appealing about “the chase” when it comes to texting, what the game is about, and how to play. Five guys, ages 20 – 30, opened up about what goes through their minds before they hit send.

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So, I've been talking to this guy for a couple of weeks. we have known eachother for awhile though but never talked to each other till recently. He was dating this girl for 2 years and they broke up 6 months ago , he messgaed me on instagram asking if i wanted to hangout sometime so i gave him my number! well we started texting for awhile but he isn't very consistent with texting and when we finally hung out i brought up how i always tect him for and he leaves me on read but then reply's to what i said couple days later. his reason was with school and work he has to work off his phone and my messages get pushed back and he would forget to reply, when he realized he forgot he had said it was too late to respond so i wouldnt bother. the next week he didnt talk much saying he had been, which i new he would be with what he had going on and moving out of his apartment that week. well he was active on snapchat at some concert so i thought i text him again and he never replied but still active on social media. i don't know if i shouldn't worry about it and text him again or just forget about it, maybe he isn't interested. i need help everyone i ask doesn't carer they just tell me i don't know. and i really need help figuring out what should i do.

You have a serious problem if he is too shy to talk with you. How will you ever communicate about all the important issues you are likely to face in a long-term relationship? I'm not sure what kind of a relationship you're in or how long you've been together, but if you can't convince him to trust you enough to open up and communicate with you, I genuinely believe you'd be better off with someone else. And I suspect he'd be happier if he waits until he finds a partner better suited to him. Either someone who is happy and comfortable with the silence or someone who has the unique qualities he needs to allow him to feel comfortable enough to be open and communicative.

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8. During the big game, spit out a sport stat that will really impress him. He will literally look at you the way he’d look at a toaster if that toaster suddenly shouted “I am a sentient being!” That means, when you’re not working 80 hours a week, buying him beer, cooking him snacks, or pegging him senseless, you should be studying up on facts about his favorite sporting ensembles. In a few years, you could become a “cool chick.” To be a “cool chick” is the highest honor to which a woman can aspire.

This guy added me on Facebook about a year ago and then messaged me on my birthday to ask me out for coffee.. At the time I was dating someone else and had to decline based on that and told him I appreciated the invite. A few months ago that boyfriend and I parted ways and a couple weeks ago I messaged that guy on Facebook and we started chatting for hours at a time online and eventually via text and seemed to really hit it off.. This last week we hung out several times and had a lot of fun. It seems he is into me by the way he talks and acts around me and I’ve made it clear I’m into him. However, since we hung out he hasn’t been the one to text me first and has been really inconsistent at times with when he eventually got around to texting me back. Either he takes up to 24 hours to reply or sometimes doesn’t reply at all. When we hung out he stated he had a lot on his mind right now and has been a bit stressed out with work. He works out of town on a 7 on 7 off schedule and seems to obviously have a lot of catching up to do with family/friends/life in general when he is home, so again I can understand the busy aspect of things.. I’m not a needy person, but I do text him maybe once a day just to say hello and to say that I hope he’s having a good day or that he was on my mind.. I feel like I’m getting some mixed messages now about whether or not he wants to be talking or even moving forward with hanging out. I’ve noticed at times that he has been active on social media after not responding to my texts right away.. I am somewhat inclined to straight up ask him if he still shares my interest in hanging out more and if he sees me as a possible girlfriend, but again it comes down to appearing needy or coming across too strong too early in the game. Is it better to be forward and ask straight up? Or should I just ride it out, stop messaging him for a while and see what happens? Could this just be an indication of his texting habits and maybe I’m reading into it too much?
Find out what his status is. Try to gauge if he’s open to a relationship in general. Maybe he’s already got his eye on someone. Maybe he’s just had a horrible breakup and he’s not open to dating at the moment. You will need to respect him, his feelings, and the situation he’s in by not being overly pushy if he isn’t in the mood for a relationship. You may try to wait it out, but only if you're okay with just ending up his friend if it doesn't work out.
Unless the two of you are already having a conversation - having moved from online dating to texting, for example or from when you met - text sparingly. If a conversation starts, great; if not, don’t stress it. Some people don’t text much... If you *are* already talking, follow the flow of conversation. Don’t try to force it; if things taper off, let them. It’s much easier to make someone lose interest by being too pushy.
This is why the book had some good advice & was worth the read - the basic idea is how to communicate who you are, how you feel, and what you expect accurately & in a way that is understood by men. So it's not about changing who you are so much as really communicating it more clearly. If you're the kind of girl whose friends & family & co-workers wonder why you're single because they think you're the bees knees, but for someone reason men you meet/briefly date aren't valuing you the same way, then this might be a helpful read. You're probably not sending the signals which communicate who YOU are correctly; you're leaving false & bad impressions. So the book is really about being MORE yourself with communication that others understand & which creates the desired effect.
Are you a woman? Do you have a male partner? Is this male partner not so much an individual human being, with all the nuances and complexity that would imply, but more of a self-propelled bag of crude stereotypes with a permanent erection? And do you, as a woman, want to forgo any hope of a career or life of your own in order to spend all your time wooing this creature, rather than doing the merciful thing and help end its undoubtedly horrific existence?
I never thought about finding a guy primarily because he was rich. With all the fights my parents had about money one might think I’d go chasing after only rich guys but that wasn’t the case. I was more concerned about making a career for myself and being able to make my own money because relationships are not guaranteed and I knew I would need to have money of my own to be able to survive. Insightful points in this post. I can see how a lit of rich people are self made and are very business focused.
Most rich men are fairly loyal family men. They are the breadwinners at the later part of life, but they often meet their significant other before they are wealthy, and sometimes the wife needs to support them in the beginning. I have never noticed that wealthier men are likely to be scoundrels. And many of the wealthier men I know, hang around with poorer friends they have known all their life. I don’t really think I agree with this article exactly, except that a lot of them are worry warts, and a lot of them are cheapskates. But then, if you love someone, you protect them, thats how all men are. I think if you asked a wealthy man if they wanted a wife that was independently wealthy, they would say; yes, but I also think they would be lying. They like the control being the one with the money gives them, even if that control is largely imaginary.
While growing up, my father always told me that as a lady, I needed to mingle with those with money. He told me to look at the back ground of the family and look at the family values, he said, the lady and her actions is what is behind the man driven. . he told me to cling to God of the Christians and build a relationship with this God. He told me to spot ambition and introduce myself with that individual. As a fresh out of high school gal, who never got along with anyone, I longed for friendship. I longed to be married, I longed to have a family of my own.
This is going to be very important if you are to bring your texts to another level. You must, like I did in Japanese become fluent in another language of texting. Now you are probably thinking that you already are at that level. I imagine you are the Shakespeare of texting and how is some guy masterdating all the time going to help you??  I can take about any girl’s phone and get the guy they are most interested in to text back immediately and in a positive way. I am extreamly good at texting, a master if you will.
If there’s ever a way of knowing how to make a man fall in love with you and be a flirty tease at the same time, this is it. Men can’t resist a lingering woman’s touch. The next time you’re with him, be it clasping palms, hugging each other goodbye, or just crossing the street, let your touch linger softly for a moment longer than necessary. Your touch would be incredibly exciting for the man you like, and you’ll spark a romantic chemistry in no time. [Read: How to flirt with a guy]
Similarity may also play a role here. Wherever you meet him, the gym, the library, or class, if you both frequent the same spots, you’re likely to run into each other again. This also means, if you hit it off one night, make sure to let him know you want to hang out again, since, (now we know!) the more you see each other, the more likely you are to fall for him, and him for you! But, no, please don’t stalk him.
Learn how to give a guy that same feeling of “I have to have her” that he gets when he sees a famous model. Do it by amping up the attraction through the timing and the expressions of your texts. Check the “Text Timing Chart” –it shows you how long to wait before responding, depending on the situation (sometimes it’ s hours and days; other times it’ s right away). You’ ll also see dozens of sample text dialogs showing how to ramp up romantic tension. P. 41-54.
Hey, my name is Mat Boggs. I’m the author of Project Everlasting and am a dating and relationship coach. I’ve been featured on the Today Show, CNN, Headline News, and the Hallmark Channel. And we recently recorded a video on how to text. Because as you know, texting can be extremely frustrating, it can be confusing, and it can build up anxiety around you know, what do I respond, how do I text back. And so, we created a video on the secrets to texting that got a ton of views. And so I wanted to share it with you, to help you in your love life.
If it’s a power imbalanced relationship where youth/beauty/desperation meets rich/successful/less attractive/not charming/etc they want more. They don’t just want the attention of a pretty girl, they want the status that comes from an illusion of choice. Even if it’s an almost straight transaction the girl that speaks well seems like she could have chosen someone else to “take care” of her. It’s a greater challenge.
***I CANT STRESS THIS NEXT POINT ENOUGH!) Please if they , meaning the other wives and girlfriends of his pals, (and they simply can’t wait to & I do mean want to see you go up in flames!),especially if your more attractive! Well honey, if you are caught speaking out of your lack of education on any subject, You failed. Not just him but the know when to speak & STFU Law! (Unwritten rules of being a lady) & now whatever comment you made will be a riot & NEVER FORGOTTEN!! Just trust me!
Like when I'm in my regular clothes like he stares at me alot and and I kind of think he likes me but when I'm in my school uniform he doesn't pay any attention to me and he doesn't bother to talk to me or get to know me but then when I asked him out he was like I don't know yet but I feel like if you really did like me he would come and talk to me to know me so we can get to know each other he talks more to the other girls and he talks to me it's like having to get to know each other if we can talk and then I'm going as soon as I'm starting the conversation and it's like he doesn't real want to talk to me in the longest conversation we've ever had is it was about like five minutes and then it just got really crazy and his first girlfriend knew that I liked it and then I tried to be friends with his girlfriend to get closer to him but that didn't seem to work but I don't want to really be a man stealer I want him to want me and I don't want to be his third where I want to be his number one so now I'm like crossed up and I don't even know what to do anymore I just stop talking to him in trying to get closer to him and he just left me alone and I left him alone and it was like that's that but I still really like him then I don't know what to do.

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Lust works in bizarre ways. Get this: If you want to renew your man's passion for you, slyly capture the eye of another guy. "Men do become more attentive and turned on by their partners when they see them being desired by other men," says Buss. Aimee, 27, knows all about this surprising strategy: "When I get dressed up and guys at the bar check me out, I know Will's thinking, Yeah, that's right. She's with me, suckers," she says. "And he's definitely clingier when he can smell the competition."
If you and your guy have mutual friends, your chances of having him fall in love with you are greater. Subconsciously, we are all wired to trust those who others can vouch for. This is why so many people meet the loves of their lives through mutual friends. If you have a couple friends who can put in a good word for you, your guy will be more willing to give love a chance!
I hate sound repetitive, but loads of single people who are never married with no kids get mislead by a romantic partner every day of the week. Only you can determine if it is worth going to a court of law. That said, I would not condone any person trying to manipulate another in their time of grief. It is morally wrong. I can tell you the conduct I have seen first hand upon the death of a loved one can be atrocious.
My guy went from texting every day to going MIA for a couple of days after I told him how I felt about him. I realized in reading this article that when I told him I liked him, it was for him and not for me…so while I would have liked a reply I didn’t need it to feel secure about his feelings. Ok, maybe I was a tiny bit worried about whether he would reply because he could have gone into the freak out phase. You were right, the sexy text did the trick. It took 3 minutes for him to get back to me after 2 days of radio silence. It felt good to give him something nice to look at during his long work day :)

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I really like this guy in my grade. And I don’t think he likes me back, but we do hold eye contact, and he does laugh with me, and has touched me before, but also he’s very popular and I feel like I cannot speak to him, outside of SS. He started a band not to long ago and told me that it would be great if I could write songs for him but..... I’m not sure if I should bc I dunno what to write bc I’m only good at love songs and that would be so awkward!!!!

Eric, thank you for your comments. I would like to say straight away that I believe that you do have women’s interests at heart when you give them advice. And I understand that this is a guy’s perspective, which is referred to by the name of your site. However, as a woman, there are things in this article that I am very uncomfortable with. For example, whilst describing yourself as a hard working man, whose time is of value, you do not seem to give the same credit to women, and choose to focus on their ability to send you their naked pictures. In my opinion, this is stereotyping. Many women also work hard and long hours. So what is your point here? Why working hard should stop a person from being respectful? It is sufficient to say once that you are busy and will respond later. However, this is not even the issue that women raise here. They are not saying that they are frustrated because men do not respond to texts that they send them to work. The women here are saying that some men do not respond for hours, days, weekends. Women here are saying that the relationship is on men’s terms and that they feel exhausted of doing all the work, they feel ignored, unappreciated and hurt. I think the message should be loud and clear to men (and women) – leaving the other person ‘hanging’, being selfish, inconsiderate and disrespectful to others is not ok and should not be put up with.

I went on a trip with a guy. I know he’s busy from witnessing first hand the demand of his job. After the trip I texted him hi one day and he responded headed to dinner with a client I hope all is well. The next week I tested him with I know you’re stressed and pressured feel better. He responded the next day early in the morning with traveling sorry my text isn’t working great outside the us. I hope all is well.
I think it totally depends on the type of person you are. Each individual has a different threshold of “hard to get” that they are willing to tolerate. When you’re texting someone that you like and they are hard to get, it’s nauseating, exciting, and thrilling, waiting for someone to respond – the fact that it’s new and unknown is exciting. The anticipation and re-reading of texts can drive you mad but it’s that pain and agony that makes it so much better when they respond.”

Brian I completely understand where you are coming from. Life is busy. Having dreams and goals make for a busy life and then add in a social calendar and honestly I don’t know where or how to find time that someone else in your life demands. I find myself wanting a relationship but also know that I have a limited amount of time and am always wondering how well received that will be from a good man. My thought has been that I would have to stop living my life to be able to be “available ” for someone else’s life. I guess I believe in fate and that the right person will come along when least expected. Good luck with all your endeavors and your search for love and a life of happiness

I waited until I’ve read everyone’s comments and points of view and I both agree and disagree with the two. On the one hand here’s a woman whose fully equipped to take of herself. So why spoil and or give her the privileged life when she’s only here for some seasons and a reason. I completely understand due to the fact I experienced it personally. I took care of two guys in my life who used me and left me broke, homeless, and with a background to boot. Then comes to find out they get married to someone who provides stability since I wouldn’t. However, me being a woman myself, what woman don’t dream of being a princess out of some fairytale except those women who’ve accumulated their own, and vice versa.

A boyfriend is a male friend or acquaintance, often specifying a regular male companion with whom one is platonic, romantically or sexually involved.[1] This is normally a short-term committed relationship, where other titles (e.g. husband, partner) are more commonly used for long-term committed relationships. A boyfriend can also be called an admirer, beau, suitor and sweetheart.[2] The analogous female term is "girlfriend".

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Tip #3: The Vibrant Vibe. According to Adam, the law of attraction is that like attracts like. By this he means if you want to attract fun and exciting guys, you've got to be fun and exciting yourself. He says, "if you have the stink face' look all night and appear miserable, guess who you'll be attracting? You guessed it, the creepers." Ugh, we all know the ones right? The ones who are all, "I bet I could make you smile, girl." Ew. On the other hand, if you're enjoying yourself, you're more likely to attract great guys. According to Adam, "women who get approached by quality guys always have the vibe that projects I'm loving my night regardless!'" On a non-guy-related note, having fun is always superior to not having fun.
Well first rich man know they are rich and they feel there are lots of you and only a few of them. They are people like any other. They feel insecure, try their best, and are intimated by other rich men. But if your not rich, then your not in their stratosphere, your simply a playtoy. I am in my mid 30s have have dated and been engaged to billionaires and rich men.. The best advice is their advice in the financial realm. Tips on investing has created a small empire for me. I could say I am rich now .. Was homeless and definitely qualify past the 7 mark net assets all because I hung around the rich men. Romantically am I full filled no!!! Rich men are hard to date .. But being rejected and used by rich men has taught me how to become wealthy myself. Now that I am wealthy I could care less about a rich man. Case in point. Take their advice and move on. Date for love. Use them ( take their financial advice ) and move on. That’s what they will do to you. Date for love not for money. But if you date rich men, do take their advice and become like them and move on … After all you become who you hang out with.

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Walk away from him, Bhavya. Do you really want to plan settling down with a guy who takes you for granted? He’s expecting you to hang around for three years before he makes up his mind. That’s crazy and cruel. Either you’ll find another guy or he’ll chase you because he sees how much he misses you. Either option has got to be better than where you’re at now. If you do nothing, you’re telling him it is okay to treat you badly. Not a good message to send if you’re looking for a long term relationship.

Show your independence. Show him that you are mentally and physically independent. You don’t need him to do everything for you (although he should feel that he can help you sometimes) and that you have a mind of your own. It adds to his vision of you as a fully developed and interesting person with standards. He wants a partner, not a blow-up doll.

well i like this guy but some days hes saying stuff like i love you and being nice and playful and those days where he is just quiet. his friend who is a girl helps me to find more about him and he only has ever had 1 girlfriend and he hasn't dated anyone since they broke up which was last year. The girl who is talking to him for me (btw she is only mentioning me in conversations to see what he says she is not asking him out for me..thats weak.) she said that one of her other friends had a crush on him and he said he isn't into her and is not wanting to be in a relationship and this was a while ago not far. But its so hard to tell because she also said that when this guy talks to girls, but not like that she says that to the girl it feels like he likes her to but hes only being friendly. i'm losing hope and i have no idea if we can ever be a thing. i think he is only being friendly but thinking back of all the things he said to me i think he is kind of interested i guess.


Respect yourself. If you say no, he should stop. If he doesn't stop, leave. Don't ever be uncomfortable saying no. Don't go against your morals to try to keep a guy. If you feel this is necessary, then either he's not a good man, or he is a good one but simply isn't a good match for you specifically (e. g. he is currently "playing the field" and is up front and honest about it, but you're looking for an exclusive relationship). Don't be uncomfortable saying yes, either. If you feel the time is right, believe in your worth and don't worry that you're "giving yourself away." You respect yourself and you're confident that he'll come back for more! A man who doesn't respect you in the morning never properly respected you to begin with, and a man who doesn't respect your wishes to wait is too impatient to make a good partner. Either way, find someone else.
Ben: I think that depends on the girl; for example, I loved getting “hey there stranger” from my first serious girlfriend who I took to prom. The words didn’t necessarily mean anything, but between us it was an inside joke or something we always said to each other. So I think the best/favorite text to get from a girl is where they reference an inside joke; it shows they care without actually saying the words, and it’s unique to your relationship.
This guy added me on Facebook about a year ago and then messaged me on my birthday to ask me out for coffee.. At the time I was dating someone else and had to decline based on that and told him I appreciated the invite. A few months ago that boyfriend and I parted ways and a couple weeks ago I messaged that guy on Facebook and we started chatting for hours at a time online and eventually via text and seemed to really hit it off.. This last week we hung out several times and had a lot of fun. It seems he is into me by the way he talks and acts around me and I’ve made it clear I’m into him. However, since we hung out he hasn’t been the one to text me first and has been really inconsistent at times with when he eventually got around to texting me back. Either he takes up to 24 hours to reply or sometimes doesn’t reply at all. When we hung out he stated he had a lot on his mind right now and has been a bit stressed out with work. He works out of town on a 7 on 7 off schedule and seems to obviously have a lot of catching up to do with family/friends/life in general when he is home, so again I can understand the busy aspect of things.. I’m not a needy person, but I do text him maybe once a day just to say hello and to say that I hope he’s having a good day or that he was on my mind.. I feel like I’m getting some mixed messages now about whether or not he wants to be talking or even moving forward with hanging out. I’ve noticed at times that he has been active on social media after not responding to my texts right away.. I am somewhat inclined to straight up ask him if he still shares my interest in hanging out more and if he sees me as a possible girlfriend, but again it comes down to appearing needy or coming across too strong too early in the game. Is it better to be forward and ask straight up? Or should I just ride it out, stop messaging him for a while and see what happens? Could this just be an indication of his texting habits and maybe I’m reading into it too much?
As a moderately successful man that has now fallen on leaner but not necessarily hard times I came to this page to read about how ladies think. For some time I have suspected the only reason why my partner is with me is because of the lifestyle she can enjoy from the money I earn. By no exaggeration, every cent I earn goes on trying in vain to keep her happy so that we are happy. I fell so deeply in love with my partner but now I have no choice but to ask for our monthly spending to drop she has become viciously hostile, mentally and at times physically abusive to me. All I want in my life is to feel the closeness in spirit to someone who will stay together with me until the end. My trust in how women are, how they think and what they want is all but completely broken.
Tip #3: The Vibrant Vibe. According to Adam, the law of attraction is that like attracts like. By this he means if you want to attract fun and exciting guys, you've got to be fun and exciting yourself. He says, "if you have the stink face' look all night and appear miserable, guess who you'll be attracting? You guessed it, the creepers." Ugh, we all know the ones right? The ones who are all, "I bet I could make you smile, girl." Ew. On the other hand, if you're enjoying yourself, you're more likely to attract great guys. According to Adam, "women who get approached by quality guys always have the vibe that projects I'm loving my night regardless!'" On a non-guy-related note, having fun is always superior to not having fun.
This guy does the same thng. In the beginning he would txt but now very rarely. I usually would send tons of txts. One day i sent a sexy pic and he responded “i like that” and that was all. Well yesterday no txts. But at 9pm he txt and ask if i was mad at him. I said no ofcourse not. He told me to txt him at 9am this morning. I did but no response. Havnt txt him back yet. I think some guys do just want u to chase them to see how good they have u wrapped around their finger. But i learn fast. He is probably getting worried now bcuz two days in a row i held my ground. When he txt later i wont respond. He just pkaying games. Men do that. But he gonna be chasing me bcuz im going to give him the cold shoulder even tho i miss him terribly. If a guy really likes u and he see u are changing he will get scared and fix his attitude 

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